I Don’t Want My Stepson to Stay Under My Roof—His Lies Are Destroying Our Trust

Why kick out a sick son? Parents are supposed to be the support system that's always dependable, no matter what support their child/children need. He had documents of illness from a doctor, so he clearly isn't lying. I don't understand how your first instinct was to kick him out instead of talking about it, figuring out why he wasn't seeking treatment. My dad (who btw isn't biologically my father) would NEVER treat me or any of his children like that, he would insist on getting my health in check then talk about employment. I'm surprised your wife didn't leave you. She was right about the whole thing.

Stepson should've been honest from the start

Felt sorry for the stepson.

This has to be fake!!!!

It appears painfully obvious you were against thd stepson staying with you and your wife, from the get go. And when your lame argument that keeping a locked case in his room as he's up to no good, you broke into hus case. Its fairly normal expect expect some degree of privacy...even when staying with family. You "proof" that had intended to stay for yhe long term is weak.

Seriously, if your stepson truly planned to stay at your your wife and your house indefinitely, he would have started out by telling you both that he does have sn illness and that the treatment options are not good and milk that for all that it worth. Hom keeping it close yo hus vest more likely shows he's still just trying to figure out where to go from here.

Oh god i hope his wife divorces him. He broke 3 laws as far as i count, and who knows what criminal activities he hasn't confessed to. We have breaking into the suitcase, going through the stepsons medical records, and reading someone elses mail. 2 of those are felonies. If my husband was so paranoid that he would actually violate 3 laws, committing 2 felonies in the process, he would be in cuffs and i would be helping my son find a good lawyer to help him file a lawsuit. I was a criminal investigator and i just can't have that sort of thing go on in my home. Not with the kinds of security clearances ive held. Fortunately my husband is a federal agent with his own security clearance and he knows better than to do something so stupid. Plus he's not paranoid and crazy, so that helps.

Why would OP even KNOW there was locked case? Who inspects other people's luggage or other belongings?

Wow. If I was this wife, divorce papers served. Thats awful to do to someone. You break into his personal belongings, find private health informatiin and want to kick him when he is already at a low point??
You sir, are a completely different level of a**hat.

Please don't be down on those of us who are refusing medical treatments, we have reasons. Being 42 I am not going on a transplant list when a liver that may go to me could go to a child who could better the world. But the stepson needs to be open about his illness and not inflict possible palliative care on in-laws without discussing it. Whoever broke into that case had no right.