I Refuse to Give My Childfree Daughter My Inheritance

Passing your money on to your nephew does not keep your legacy alive. He's not your kid. It will keep your brother/sisters legacy alive because they're their grandkids. Do you think those children in 60 years when they're passing whatever may be left if they didn't squander everything they inherited are going to say this is from your great uncle? Leaving money to your daughter doesn't mean your family line dies with you, it means it dies with your daughter she already exists. She's the end of the line. I hate to break it to you but even if she had kids they would be no guarantee she would leave that money to her children, just the way you're refusing to leave it to her. There's no way to guarantee that your nephew will leave the money to his kids, what he does with it once you leave it to him it's up to him. He could use it to buy a motorcycle and travel the world and the kids get nothing.

YRTA. Grow up. You slammed the door on your legacy, then have the nerve to complain about it. Your best course of action should be to make amends. If you have a nephew that means you have a sibling. In that case your blood line is already covered so you were merely trying to get your daughter to give you grandchildren.

You are such the A**HOLE. I get that it's your money.... What makes you an A** is your attempting to control your child with threats. If YOUR CHILD doesn't do what YOU want then she's not good enough for any of your legacy. She IS YOUR LEGACY

You're a massive A**hole! What gives you the right to dictate you daughter having children? You chose to have your daughter and your raised her to be the person she is. Using threats of "inheritance" is just gross. You can do whatever you want with your money but to hold it over your child's head to force her into something she doesn't want is authoritarian and disgusting. I'd go completely no contact with you if I were her.

She could start a charity fund in your name to continue your "legacy". What sort of "legacy" do the think you have to carry on? Are you a great philanthropist? Are you inventing revolutionary cancer treatments? Use YOUR money to creat a legacy that carries on after you pass without putting stipulations on someone else's body

You are correct, it is your money, take it with you to your grave! The foolish thing you did was to be critical to your daughter's life versus just doing what you thought was best with your finances. You have probably ruined your relationship with your daughter forever, hope your legacy is worth it...

Just shows that you love your money more than your daughter.

If you had choose to have more children you might have had more opportunities for expanding your lineage. Your daughter has a right to live her life how she chooses to. I truly belive if people who don't want children, they certainly should not have them. Love the one child you have leave the majority of your estate to her but to satisfy your dream leave something to your nephew and his family. You only get one life and so does your daughter . As a mom of 4 I am so blessed but .my goal was to raise them to be healthy, happy people and to make their own choices and be their own person.and they have . The goal is not for your children to live their lives for you as their parent but to find their way as a independent individual.

Thought l understand that you want your legacy to continue, she us right. Your inheritance to her shouldn't be with conditions. Leave half to her, and half to you nephew, this way you can have your cake and eat it too

So sad that you can't see that tying your money to something that's not going to happen is damaging your daughter so much.
Be grateful your daughter is happy and healthy nothing more.
Would be nice to have grandchildren sure but it's better to have your daughter by your side.
I'm sure that as time goes on the distance you have caused will be something you will Regret. By then it will be to late.
What is leaving a legacy, can be tied up in so many meaningful ways.
But you have and will regret your decision.
So sad

Put in a college trust fund. Allow offspring to borrow tuition interest free but still pay it back at 10% of monthly income till paid. Now that can be your legacy 🤗

Wow. Your daughter is your legacy. But if you'd rather screw her over because of your selfish needs for a grandchld.then be ready for this. If she changes her mind. I would t be surprised if you never got to see the child. Clearly you only love your daughter when she is an obedient tool to you. I hope you end your days alone in a care home. Its what you deserve

He have his rights and his daughter have her rights. He can do whatever with his money and she can do whatever she wants to with lfe, Simple as that 🤷‍♀️

While you are well within your rights to dictate to whom your money goes at the time of your demise, it truly is reprehensible to try to force & control your daughter with it.

Would you really want your daughter to bring a child into the world that she does not want?

What kind of life would that poor child have knowing they were born simply to fulfill a contractual obligation in order to obtain an inheritance?

Imagine being born when you are neither desired nor wanted.

If you cannot see that your daughter did what was right fir her, then truly I feel sorry for you.

I speak from experience. Our daughter is married (happily) & I have a grand-husky for a grabd-puppers. No children will bless their union.

And guess what? I am delighted fir her (them) because they ate great people, solid citizens, contribute to society through work & volunteer & pay taxes etc.

I am beyond proud of my daughter because she is an amazing woman.

Truth be told, I think she is the best of hubby & me & better still. I love her very much.

But more than that - I respect her & her decisions.

I have fostered children in the past. I have seen that side of life.

It is beyond tragic thst you are so fixated on leaving a legacy in the firm.of grandchildren that you do not realize your legacy is betrayal to your daughter because you are trying desperately to be manipulative & exploitive for YOUR OWN ends. Not for what is right for your daughter.

I doubt I can reason with you because, sadly, it is true, none are so blind as they who refuse to see. Vanity is ruling you & your decisions. Plain & simple.

Alas, you will not see it.

Of this, I am fairly certain.

Fir my part, my heart goes out to your bereft daughter who all too clearly knows that you value money & grandchildren far more than you value her - you orphaned her before you physically died.

I hope you one day realize that truth - before it is too late.

Prayers for healing because it is most definitely needed.

Passing down something that keeps your name alive... Wouldn't that name change if the daughter got married? This is all bs anyway. Humans will not exist forever. Everything eventually ends. The continuation of anyone's line means absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things.

Wow, I'm so glad he's not my dad! What a selfish person . And what say does his wife get in this?? I am in a similar position - two adult children who are very unlikely to have children of their own. Yes, I'm sad that I will never be a grandma - but they don't owe me a grandchild. So they get my legacy, but not all of it. Some goes to my adopted family and grandson . But I would never dream of cutting my sons out completely.

I think it's kind of weird that at the beginning of this diatribe he spoke of both him and his wife working hard for what they have, and then it diverged into a rant about 'his money' and 'his legacy' and 'his need to dictate that his child procreate.' Hey sir, did you even ask your WIFE how she feels about disinheriting her only child? Or are you so far up the a** of the cult of patriarchy that you forgot THOSE ASSETS DO NOT SOLELY BELONG TO YOU?

What an amazing grandmother! If only more daughters had mothers like this, the USA would begin to be a better place again!

It really comes down to this.
It's your money.You can do whatever you want with it.
No one is guaranteed an inheritance.
But I would not disown my kids for not giving me a grand kid.

If he's in the US and dies first it goes to his wife. Hopefully she then writes a will and leaves it all to the daughter. He can't leave it all to the nephew if the wife us still there. She could and should contest her husband's will and take it all then hand it right to her daughter!!!

His money... his right to choose to whom he leaves it.

You are correct that it is your money and that you can go with it what you will. But at what price? You're daughter is a grown woman who has the right to make her own choices. I have 2 grown children who have made it perfectly clear they do not want children. My spouse and I are perfectly fine with this since we respect their decision. To be honest, if I were in their shoes now, I would be thinking twice about having children in this day and age.

You don't view your daughter as a human being, and I'm going to tell you the line that convinced me if this.

"I told her it is not about punishing her, it is about making sure everything I worked for does not die with me."

It wouldn't have died with you, if you gave it to her, it would have died with her. You are so fixated on "your bloodline", it's like you don't even see her as your legacy, and what she builds with or without the inheritance,is her legacy, not yours. I'm glad you don't have more kids. You are selfish and self centered and good luck when your wife finally pulls her head out of her behind and leaves a worthless, heartless, soulless person like you.

What a selfish asshole. Firstly, if he wanted multiple grandkids, why did he only have one child himself?

In fact, i'm surprised they only had one given (reading between the lines) he's probably pissed she wasn't a boy, given he seems to only see worth in her to pump out some babies. Legacy being about bloodlines is just silly: I bet he's done nothing actually of note in his life, but his daughter still could.

I am a similar age to his daughter, and am also childfree. I can promise my father does not give a monkeys that I don't want children. In da t, he's probably even glad for it, because I know i wouldn't make a good mother.

Frankly, I hope his daughter cuts him out of her life, and then he can reflect on how his backwards, transactional view of their relationship caused him to not only not have grandkids, but also no longer have a daughter. He sounds like an awful dather, so she'd probably be better off.

Where she chooses and why is her business the daughter has as much "right" to the money as I do. Stop being entitled. Love and respect your parents that's it.

ha, you are selfish and controlling, wake up man, did you have your daughter from your heart or your calculated mind? if heart it was, stop being the selfish and controlling, if it was from yor calculating mind , make sure you have a good nursing home , you did with your life what you want, her life is not what you want

How can a parent, like yourself, be so selfish, self-centered and uncaring. If you want to leave a legacy, it should be one of people remembering you as a kind, selfless snd caring person. It is because of your behaviour that you have not been blessed with grandchildren. Go get a dog then and pass inheritance to it! Stupid!

Donate it to Charity. There are many Children that would value your help to further and better their lives. It is your money, at the end it is your decision.

Are you f**king right in the head. Did you ever stop to think that there could be a reason behind your daughter not wanting children did it even occur to you that she might mot be able to have children.
Maybe you and your sexist views could be a big part in why she has chosen not to st art a family.
She is your daughter you should love her simply because she is your child and not just for her reproductive organs.
You are a massive A-Hole who needs to go back to school and learn that women are equal to men and have not been put on this earth just to have babies.
Your so called legacy don't mean a thing if you don't value your own flesh and blood for who she is
How about you think long and hard on if you actually love your daughter for who she is or do you only love what her womb could give you.

You're entitled to your hopes but deciding your daughters life for her is the height of selfish and controlling!!! Absolutely no one should be forced into parenthood!

Plus it's a different world than the one you grew up in. The cost of raising a child is staggering. One must be willing to sacrifice pretty much everything.

Dad maybe you should have had more kids in dome for or other, if you all couldn't procreate anymore, then you wouldn't have to put this kind of responsibility onto her. It isn't rught!

You made your choice, it IS your money, but it cost you your only child. Reap the consequences of your decisions, justified or not. At the end of the day, it’s obvious you only ever saw your child as an incubator and egg storage. You don’t love her, and honesty I think you lied to yourself when you say you DO love her.

If I were in her shoes, I’d respect your decision but I’d never speak to you again. I’d hate you, not because of the money, but because you made it clear she’s nothing but a uterus to fulfill your dreams.

Ah, yes...women are only worth the kids they birth, sons preferred. That old chestnut. He can do whatever he wants with his money. She can do whatever she wants with her body. He can't try to buy her uterus as an incubator and somehow think she won't be upset about that.

Are you familiar with the Parable of the Prodigal Son. The father gave equally to his well-behaved son and his problem child. Unfortunately you only have a 'prodigal' child. You have no idea what these fantasy grandchildren would be like. They might have squandered your legacy. Consider creating a large donation or endowment, based on your legacy obviously. And consider other ways to pass your knowledge and love on to children who don't get that kind of attention through volunteering. Or SULK.
Whichever seems more in line with your personality.

You worthless pig of a human being. I hope you will be satisfied with your life when you are alone sitting in your own excrement and dementia. I'm pretty sure your nephew isn't going to wipe your backside and deal with your second childhood. You said it yourself, he has kids. He doesn't want to take care of a worthless old man too.

Enjoy what's going to be the rest of your life, which is going to be lonely since you no longer have a daughter. Maybe you should look back on how you raised her? You could be why she chose to not have them. Just don't ask yourself why nobody bothers to remember/visit you. IF your nephew does it's because you bought him.

Yes it is YOUR money. But that's where it ends. How she chooses to live her life is HER choice not yours to punish. Happy being alone because now you lost your daughter.