I Refuse to Provide for My Stepmom After She Quit Her Job on Purpose — I Am Not a Credit Card

IF you are still living at home, you need to get out immediately. They WILL keep gnawing away at you. Bit by Bit, they will claim that you OWE them for more and more. If you are staying there, then make them show you the utility bills or the bills for anything else THAT YOU USE, in the house. Then pay YOUR THIRD, or your portion of how many people are in the house. NOT the mortgage or house insurance. Those are (or should be) in their names, and only they benefit from the equity or insurance payouts. While you are there, you should, now, pay some rent. If they don't show them to you, don't give them ANYTHING towards them. Don't let them put ANY BILLS IN YOUR NAME. If they are depending on you to support them, completely, you can look for a roommate in an affordable place. I know that is going to be hard to find, but the alternative sounds much worse. The longer you are in their house, the harder it will be to leave, because ALL your money will be used up to and you will never get it back. HAVING AND RAISING CHILDRENIS A JOB, BUT NOT ONE THAT THE CHILD HAS TO PAY FOR. DON'T let them guilt you into paying for them being CHEAP ASS LOSERS.

You thought they’d be proud of your independence? Independence isn't just taking a paycheck; it's taking responsibility. You’re not truly independent if you’re willing to watch your own father struggle just so you can keep your 'fun money' for the weekend.

You’re worried she timed her resignation with your benefits? Smart woman. That’s called 'strategic planning.' Maybe if you spent more time learning that from her and less time whining to the internet, you’d be up for a promotion by now.

The only thing 'shocking' here is your total lack of filial piety. I would have been mortified to reach twenty-three and still be thinking only of myself. You’re acting like a tenant, not a daughter.

You said you 'froze in shock.' Honestly, Natasha, if you spent half as much energy working overtime as you do on your dramatic facial expressions, you’d have plenty of money to cover the electric bill and your student loans. Stop acting like you’re in a soap opera and start acting like an adult.

Y'all in the comments are crazy!!!

Please don't listen to the negative hateful comments some people are just miserable and nasty. Show your parents exactly what you make so they understand your expenses.Maybe you could pick a bill to pay.

These comments are ridiculous. You think a 23 year old kid on an entry level salary who doesn't live there (she mentions paying rent and groceries) should support her parents? You people are nuts.

you people are absolute knobs! He pays rent and bills....he owes them nothing....take your fillial piety and shove em so far up your ass...your ancestors smell shit....The srepmonster quit ON PURPOSE!! HE is NOT obligated to pay for anyone but himself..grow the fuck up and do better

All you mofos thinking a 23 yo on entry level can support a leech of a stepmother n dad r wack. She didn't ask to be born ya shits. It's not up to her to let freeloaders tag along

Number one, your dad and bio mom gave birth to you and you didn't ask for it. You are not responsible to provide for adults. Say no.

Wow, just feel free to ignore all the freeloaders in the comments section. A parents JOB is to raise you up until your independent and flying free of the nest. Not to mooch off you. That's insane. Go no contact with your toxic parents, you owe them absolutely nothing except perhaps gratefulness for showing their true colors now instead of later.

Your parents are pure trash. Stop speaking with them and dont give them a penny, they are entitled leeches, and they will suck you dry if you let them. And dont let any one guilt you for not moving out at 18 ... that's for terminal diploma holders. College kids get extra time.

You keep saying you 'never signed up' for the debt of your upbringing. Well, I’m sure your father didn't 'sign up' for twenty-three years of your whining, your messy room, and your expensive hobbies, but he did it anyway! It’s called unconditional love—and now it’s time for some 'unconditional' repayment. You don't get to opt out of family obligations just because you have a student loan.

What 'lifestyle' exactly? You make it sound like they’re asking for a penthouse in Manhattan. They’re asking to stay afloat. If you think your entry-level salary is enough to let two adults 'retire,' you clearly weren't paying attention in your math classes. They aren't exploiting you—they're testing your character. And so far? You’re failing."

You call her your 'stepmom' like it’s a slur. That woman stepped into a role she didn't have to, dealing with your moods and your messes for years—and now that she’s physically and mentally 'done,' you’re offended? She’s earned her rest, and if that means you have to work a few extra hours of overtime to cover the water bill, then that’s the least you can do to pay her back for her service.