I Refused to Watch My DIL Give Birth— She Made Sure I Regretted That Moment

So, YOU couldn't even go to the hospital? NO kind of support?, ON THE DAY OF YOUR GRANDCHILD'S BIRTH? Apparently, you don't " LOVE MY SON AND MY GRANDSON", (NO mention of the DIL, at all) asuch as you pretend. You got what you gave. Stop crying over your own poor choice.

The photographer looked "uncomfortable" because the tension in the room was a direct result of your presence. You walked into a celebration of a new life after refusing to be part of the arrival of that life. You were a guest at a party for a journey you refused to join.

Watching her mother receive a diamond bracelet and "royal" treatment was a direct lesson in the value of showing up. That mother traveled from far away to provide the unconditional support you refused to give while living right down the street. The contrast in their treatment is a direct result of the contrast in your actions.

Crying in the car won't change the fact that you failed a massive character test. When your son was away and his wife was in need, you chose your own comfort over her safety and sanity. You didn't just hurt her; you showed your son that his wife can't count on you when he’s not around.

The "Welcome Baby" celebration was her way of showing that life goes on without you. She survived the labor, she handled the fear, and she found a way to celebrate without needing your "demand" availability. The coldness you felt in that room was just the draft from the bridge you burned a few days earlier.

+ i will never understand how bright side is always giving a positive advice. No, Galy was so wrong here

So her mother wasn't there for the birth, she tried to force you to go through guilt, but somehow her mom is worthy of diamonds for not showing up and you're treated like a peasant when you were there for everything else through the entire pregnancy? I'm sorry but you do not have to be in the delivery room to be considered family to a child. Her mother wasn't in the delivery room. Your son wasn't in the delivery room. Why is the fact that you weren't, when no one else was make you the bad guy? No one has the right to demand you do something that makes you uncomfortable, they just don't.

I'm thinking, wasn't anyone there for MiL when she gave birth to her son? Was it also a "gross" experience for her or for the person who came to be with her at the birth? If so, why didn't she remember that????

I think your son is adopted that's why you feel disgusted of child birth women like you don't deserve kindness

To quote an oft-popular sports comment: "You had just ONE job!" (That was in reference to the NY Giants punter Matt Dodge who had kicked the ball to the Eagles receiver DeSean Jackson, who returned the ball for a TD in the final seconds of the game, which became the "Miracle at the New Meadowlands 2.0")! Football aside, while it's commendable that you were helping your DIL out throughout the pregnancy, you failed BIG TIME when she needed someone with her while she was in labor, and compounded your refusal by calling childbirth "disgusting" (like, how did you think we all got here, via a cabbage patch??)! You weren't asked to catch the baby; you were asked to BE THERE, whether it's to hold her hand, feed her ice chips, even provide words of encouragement in lieu of her husband (work) and her mom (too far away)! But because you couldn't be bothered to be there for her when she really needed you, she placed you in the hierarchy of being a "guest" instead of a grandma! So, sorry, you're the one who missed out on the diamond bracelet, and it's not your SON you need to talk to, it's his WIFE!!