5 Negative Effects Grandparents Can Have on Children When Babysitting Them
Having your kid’s grandparents around you is great: you can rely on their occasional help with babysitting kids when you need it. But there are unexpected aspects of leaving your children with their grandparents all the time, that can be negative for child’s social, behavioral and physical development.
Here at Bright Side let’s take a look at some of these possible consequences to be aware and try to prevent them.
1. Children may become disobedient.
Grandparents tend to be more indulgent with grandchildren. They usually please them more than they did with their children, even doing the opposite of what their parents do or say to do. There is the risk of spoiling the discipline the child has been taught up to this point, and the child may become disobedient.
2. Children may feel anxiety from parents.
If grandparents let children do most of the things they want, parents end up having to play the “bad guy.” Jealousy and competitiveness can develop in parents, who feel underrated and unwanted, trying to gain back the main position in the lives of their children. This can be really stressful and disorienting for children, who feel the anxiety in their parents.
3. Children may not get enough physical activity.
Children are full of energy and they need to run, jump, and play to develop their body properly and be healthy. Often grandparents are not in the best shape, they cannot follow children in most of their activities outdoors. This can be frustrating for children and they may feel the need to move when they go back home, where there may be some tired parents waiting for them.
4. Children may eat excessively.
Often grandparents overfeed their grandchildren. Recent studies have found that kids could end up suffering from obesity, bad dental hygiene, or even diabetes because their grandparents spoil them with treats, sweets, candies, and fatty foods. They try to make their grandkids happier, but they may be causing severe health damage.
5. Children may develop poor social skills.
When children spend most of their time with their grandparents they aren’t stimulated enough to go make friends with other kids. They tend to stay comfortably inside their familiar relationships, avoiding their peers. Instead, children who attend a preschool or a kindergarten, are less likely to have behavioral problems because they develop better social skills.
Tell us about your experience of leaving your children with their grandparents. Have you noticed some other bad habits? Tell us in the comments.
Illustrated by Natalia Okuneva-Rarakina for BrightSide.me