7 Things Our Moms and Dads Did That Any Parent Can Use as a Lesson Today
Raising children is totally different now than it was a few decades ago. But that doesn’t mean we can’t bring back some successful old-school parenting approaches and enjoy their benefits. “The good old days” can actually contribute much to raising our kids in today’s fast-pace, tech-driven world.
We at Bright Side believe that our parents had a huge impact on the people we are today. So, take a look at this list of vintage parenting practices that are still very useful even now.
1. Kept our life simple.
When we were kids, we didn’t have very many materialistic things, but we were happy because we created our own entertainment and adventures. The simple pleasures of life that our parents gave us when we were little, like a tasty cake cooked by mom or a toy hand-made by dad, meant the world to us.
We had simple family traditions like watching movies together, laughing, and eating popcorn and we were allowed to have sleepovers with friends. Our birthdays were nothing fancy, just a lot of kids, a homemade cake, fizzy soda, and lots of games, but this brought us so much joy.
2. Spent quality time with us.
Let’s face it, we live in an incredibly busy world and today’s parents struggle to make time for their children between work and life responsibilities. It’s true that you want to earn more money to give your child a comfortable life, but things like play time, reading, or simply being with your little one are crucial in developing a parent-child relationship.
Back in the day, spending quality time with us mattered the most for our moms and dads. They put great value on making memories together, so that’s why they didn’t skip family dinners as a daily ritual where we would all talk about our day, our needs, and our feelings.
3. Allowed us to experience failure and disappointment.
Every parent wants the best for their child, a great life filled with joys and success. But this doesn’t mean we should overprotect them by jumping to their rescue all the time and removing obstacles to make their life easy. Our moms and dads did a good job of preparing us for the real world.
They let us try, fail, feel the disappointment, and face the natural consequences of our actions because this was a chance for us to grow and learn.
4. Trusted us.
Most of us can remember walking alone to school, playing outside with our friends until dark, climbing fences, or riding bikes for hours far away from home. Our parents raised us to become independent adults and they gave us freedom because they trusted our ability to make good decisions. This is really important for how you are preparing your kid for the future.
Being too protective and hyper-vigilant may turn your child into a less responsible and less mature young person.
5. Taught us the value of money.
These days, many teenagers have a pretty distorted perception of money, being very confused about the fine line between wants and needs. Back in the day, our parents did a great job of teaching us the importance of money and spending it responsibly. They advised us on how to save and how to manage a budget.
By showing your kid, from a young age, that hard work earns money, you help them develop some healthy financial habits that will last a lifetime.
6. Encouraged us to play outside.
There was a time when kids didn’t see their homes during daylight. Our moms and dads gave us the freedom to play outside as much as we wanted. They gave us a little snack after we came back from school and after that they sent us outside again until dinner time.
Our parents knew nature was so beneficial and they didn’t want us to miss out on opportunities to interact with other kids, get some physical exercise, and develop our creativity.
7. Made us do chores.
Many of us can remember having chores when we were little. Our parents made us understand that doing basic household chores meant being a helpful member of the family. So, we took care of some simple tasks like washing the dishes, setting the table, cleaning the toilet, making up the bed, or helping in the garden.
We felt useful and having chores made us feel more grounded, responsible, organized, and helped us grow as young independent adults and caring citizens.
What’s the best thing you learned from your parents? Would you apply something from this list to raising your own children? Tell us in the comment section below.