7 Things That Parents Are Recommended to Teach Their Children
Many parents often find themselves in situations when they want to help their child but they feel afraid to make things worse if they interfere. It’s perfectly normal and natural for parents to want to protect their children, but there are some situations when they have to let them work things out themselves. We may only support them and teach them how to cope with different challenges so that they’ll be able to protect themselves in the future.
Bright Side believes that these 7 rules will help your child become a happy and confident adult.
7. Learn to say “No.”
Problem: A classmate asks your child to let them cheat during a test. If your child agrees to help, the teacher will receive 2 identical answer sheets and will lower the grade for both students.
Solution: Explain to your child that they depreciate themselves and their own effort because they’ve spent a lot of time preparing for the test and someone wants to use their knowledge for their own benefit. To teach your child to say “no,” suggest that they reply with something along the lines of, “I haven’t finished yet. Don’t distract me.” Such a rational phrase will allow your child to feel confident and no one will be able to manipulate them.
6. Learn to use comebacks that will leave them speechless.
Problem: Your child’s classmates always bully them and make fun of them. This results in your child not wanting to go to school because of the emotional pain caused by the other schoolchildren.
Solution: In such situations, parents shouldn’t interfere with a conflict directly so as not to make things worse. Explain that, in fact, it’s a bully who has a problem because they want to look cool by making you sad and scared. The child should show that the bully’s words shouldn’t upset them. If the child laughs while looking the bully directly in the eyes and showing that they don’t care, the rest of the classmates will lose interest because they won’t see any reaction.
5. Grades aren’t the most important thing.
Problem: Each time your child gets a bad grade, they start crying because they didn’t manage to deal with the task better. They’re afraid to tell their parents about their grade because they don’t want to be punished.
Solution: Many parents make their kids fear bad grades without realizing it. Of course, the gained knowledge is important but children shouldn’t be scared to show a bad grade. Parents shouldn’t yell at their children or punish them for getting a bad grade. Show your child that your love is above all learning achievements. Just say, “Failed to get a good grade? Don’t be upset. You’ll nail it next time!” And your child won’t be afraid of difficulties in the future.
4. Learn to help and defend those who are weaker.
Problem: The child tells you that their classmates are bullying a boy. Your kid knows that it’s wrong but they don’t know how to help and they’re scared to try.
Solution: Many children are afraid to defend those who are weaker because they don’t want to risk becoming another victim. Adults experience the same fear when, for example, we see that people offend those who are from lower social groups so they just turn a blind eye to it. That’s why we have to explain that it’s very important to sympathize and be ready to help. Ask your child to help around the house and let them be responsible for something: their baby brother, their cousin, or a house pet.
3. Love what you do.
Problem: The constant routine of school, athletic clubs, tutors, and homework is making your child tired and exhausted. All they want is to relax or to spend time with their friends.
Solution: Parents want their children to be happy and achieve great results, that’s why they pack their child’s schedule with as many activities as possible. But such an approach doesn’t show children that only those things that they like can truly bring them joy and success. Let your child spend one hour a day on a hobby that they love like computer games, sports, or arts and crafts.
2. Exercising is a part of life.
Problem: Your child is too shy and reserved. They like to stay at home instead of seeing their friends.
Solution: Suggest trying out a team sport. A group of children who have the same interests will have a good influence on your child. What’s more, sports contributes to your child’s confidence levels. Parents shouldn’t forget that they have to remember about their child’s desires and let them choose the activities that they really love. If your son likes to dance, let him dance, don’t make him take up baseball. Otherwise, he’ll hate everything that’s associated with sports.
1. Love yourself the way you are.
Problem: “Mary’s got beautiful hair, Kate’s eyes are so big, and I’m ugly.” Sooner or later, all children start comparing themselves with other kids and it can become a problem in the future.
Solution: All children, regardless of their sex, want to be attractive and talented. Don’t forget to tell your children that they’re beautiful. If your child has an idol, show them their baby photos or a photo without Photoshop. Such examples demonstrate that what makes us beautiful is not our perfection, but it’s how unique we truly are.
What do you want your children to know before entering adult life? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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