There Are 20 Things to Avoid to Become a Real Lady
Some people consider the rules of etiquette to be outdated and old-fashioned. However, good manners never go out of style. If you want to be taken seriously, you should know there are things that can ruin your image of a true lady.
We at Bright Side came up with a list of typical etiquette mistakes a true lady would never make. Keep them in mind, and you’ll always make a great first impression.
20. Wearing poor-quality fake designer items
You don’t have to spend all your money on some ridiculously expensive designer bag. But if you can’t afford it, buying a much cheaper copy is not an option. A replica, even of a good quality, can be easily spotted. So if you plan to ruin a good first impression, go with the fake.
Choose stylish and high-quality clothing items that you can afford. They don’t have to have some famous designer’s name on them. The same applies to accessories and jewelry.
19. Making fashion mistakes
A true lady would never wear an oversized sweater or a pair of overly tight shorts. She knows how to choose the right types of clothes that say a lot about her style.
She would never wear baggy clothes just because they’re comfortable. Her clothing is very tasteful, and every item in her wardrobe is chosen according to her body type.
Another important rule for a lady is holding a royal posture. When you’re slouching, it seems like you’re really burdened with something.
Improving your posture is not as difficult as it may seem at first. Including regular exercises in your schedule will strengthen the muscles in your upper back and shoulders and improve your posture.
17. Not taking good care of yourself
A true lady takes good care of herself. She loves sports, maintains a healthy diet, pays attention to skincare, and consults specialists if necessary.
This means she is fit and has glowing skin and healthy hair and nails.
16. Wearing too much makeup
If a woman pays special attention to skincare, her skin looks amazing. She knows exactly what makes her face stand out and uses makeup accordingly.
She is always in the spotlight, and she looks absolutely gorgeous even without tons of makeup on her face.
15. Being too fussy
A true lady knows how to take control of her nervous habits — if she has any. She’d never play with her hair, shake her leg, or let any other fidgety behavior ruin her reputation.
Never fuss over small things. Take your time. A true lady manages to find time for everything.
14. Finishing your soup
To get the last spoonful of soup, you need to slightly tilt your bowl or soup plate. Although table manners say you should tilt the plate away from you to avoid splashing, it’s better not to finish the soup at all.
Even if your soup is mind-blowingly delicious, enjoy it until you can use your spoon without tilting the plate.
13. Being rude and spreading rumors
Being rude, gossiping, and whining are taboos for a true lady. It’s beneath her.
Neither would she listen to someone else’s whining and gossiping. Why spend her precious time on that?
12. Talking and laughing loudly
It’s very important to watch the tone of your voice. Laughing loudly, yelling, and offensive language are unacceptable.
No matter if it’s your grandmother, your 3-year-old, or a president, take the same tone of voice with everyone.
A true lady always has her own opinion, and she’s 100% sure of it.
She’d never force her ideas on anybody, nor would she argue her choice. When all is said and done, why bother to prove her position?
10. Eating on the go
Etiquette rules say you need to use cutlery when you’re at the table. So even if pizza is your favorite food, don’t order it in a restaurant.
If you’re in a hurry, try not to eat on the go. It doesn’t suit a true lady. The best idea is to rearrange your tight schedule to find a couple of minutes for at least a decent cup of coffee.
9. Being too honest
Opening up to a stranger has nothing to do with the image of a lady.
A true lady is never too much when it comes to communicating with new people. She doesn’t share details of her personal life, her job, or her innermost thoughts.
8. Wearing white high heels
A pair of white pumps can be worn either with a white wedding gown or with a white summer dress.
In other cases, choose 2-tone or beige high heels. Depending on the color of your ensemble, other colors can work too, but you can never go wrong with a pair of black pumps.
7. Being late
A lady knows that it’s unacceptable to be more than 15 minutes late, both for business and personal meetings.
And she, herself, wouldn’t wait for longer. She’d leave because she values her time.
6. Leaving an umbrella open to dry
It’s a very common mistake. Don’t leave your umbrella open to dry.
Close your umbrella before entering a building. Shake the water off, and hang it to dry. You can also use a special drying machine if it’s available.
5. Responding to another person’s sneeze by saying "Bless you."
Many people respond to someone else’s sneeze by saying "Bless you," but this is only acceptable if the sneezer is a close friend or family member.
In all other cases, just ignore it as if you didn’t notice anything unusual.
4. Not wearing pantyhose
According to modern business etiquette rules, a woman must wear pantyhose to work and formal receptions. Even on the hottest summer day.
If it’s too hot, you can wear thigh-highs or pants instead of a dress or a skirt.
3. Refusing food and drinks offered by a host
A true lady would never refuse food and drinks offered to her. If a host asks what drink she prefers, a lady would thank the host and go with a glass of white without lengthy explanations as to why she can’t have a drink.
It’s okay not to eat at all and just to take a sip of wine.
2. Dancing with your hair down
Remember to keep your hair up, and never wear high stiletto heels so as not to injure other dancers.
A true lady cares about other people’s health and safety.
1. Blowing on your food to cool it down
It’s unacceptable to blow on your food, which is why a true lady waits for it to cool down naturally.
To make your food cool down more quickly, try stirring it with a spoon.
Do you know any other rules that make a lady? Share in the comments!