10 Crucial Mistakes That Can Stop You From Finding “The One”
People meet, fall in love, get married — it sounds so simple and happens to people every day. Except you. If you constantly force yourself to go on dates and find yourself having trouble meeting “the one,” science is ready to reveal some cold and harsh facts about factors that make you less attractive. But don’t get upset yet. The good thing is that you will be able to increase your chances of taking that special someone’s breath away once you understand how it works.
Bright Side looked carefully at studies and decided to reveal the 10 things any person can easily avoid doing from now on.
10. You beam with happiness (or not).
This slightly controversial study was conducted by researchers from the University of British Columbia. It involved about 1,000 participants. And what we want to know now is do we have to look happy or not? Let’s find out.
It appears that it all depends on what your gender is. Happiness was reported to benefit the attractiveness of women, but not men. Men were found to be most attractive when they looked proud.
9. You enjoy chit-chatting.
So, you love complaining about the weather to strangers. And find it extra-delightful to discuss the current news. Scientists say that it is high time to forget about this strategy and start discussing deeper topics. This will help you to feel more connected and interested in each other. And this means that your chances of falling in love will increase.
8. You believe that sleep is for the weak.
Have you ever wondered why Sleeping Beauty got her name? Well, it seems it’s because she slept a lot. We believe that you know what consequences a lack of sleep may have — red eyes, dark circles under them, puffy face, and pale skin. Ugh. It’s no wonder that a Swedish study showed that sleep-deprived people are considered less attractive.
Not to mention that they look less healthy and more tired. So, 7–8 hours of sleep per night is what every one of us needs to maintain our attractiveness.
7. You don’t giggle after jokes.
Try to remember the situations when somebody told a joke and everyone broke out into laughter, except you. And you even don’t enjoy a sense of humor at all. It seems like this could be the heart of the matter, since men and women confirm that they tend to like humorous people more. A sense of humor is a powerful source of attractiveness, and, luckily, it can be developed.
6. You think that the color red doesn’t suit you.
If you think this, you probably avoid buying red clothing. And red accessories like shoes or ties don’t evoke any emotions in your heart. But do you know what this color represents? It’s the symbol of passionate love, seduction, and adventure.
Maybe this explains the results of several studies that confirm that men and women are more attracted to those who aren’t afraid of wearing red. It doesn’t mean that you have to completely cover yourself with it, but at least try spicing up your style a little.
5. You are a lone wolf.
No one is going to argue with the fact that spending some time alone can be beneficial for our health and our mood. But if you are looking for love, this is the wrong strategy. This study discovered that people were reported to look better when they spent time in a group. The specialists note that this happens because our brain takes all faces of the group as a whole and perceives them as an average (and that’s why people in a group seem more beautiful and handsome than when we see a person alone).
4. You are worn down.
If being stressed out doesn’t make you feel bad enough, this study will give you some reasons to finally chill out. It seems that rough life conditions can make us less attractive. Researchers focused their attention on women only and suggested that the result could be explained by evolution. In stressful situations, the level of our stress hormones increases and it can somehow indicate that women are not healthy or fertile enough.
3. You’re not humble.
Take a look at the following statements: 1. “I’m a pretty good student, but not a bookworm.” 2. “I’m smart, but I don’t like the attention.” 3. “I’m a really good student and pretty smart, but definitely not a nerd or bookworm. I guess it just comes naturally.” What person would you feel more sympathy toward?
This study suggests that in descriptions and personality assessments like this humble people are reported to be more attractive than arrogant ones. So, watch what you say if you’ve spotted a cutie nearby.
2. You make grammar mistakes.
There are people who try to find their true love by surfing the internet. And if you are one of them, you should be really careful. If you want to capture someone’s heart, it’s better to avoid any grammar mistakes in your texts. This conclusion was found out by Grammarly and eHarmony, who reviewed 10,000 matches.
Imagine this, men who had just 2 spelling mistakes in their profile were 14% less likely to get a response. Do you understand how little your chances are if there are 5 or 10 mistakes in your messages?
1. You play too hard to get.
Some women believe that this is a magical strategy that will raise men’s interest in them and are sure that this will improve their response rate. But as this study shows, you have to know when to stop. People are more likely to consider others attractive if they have no problem understanding their emotions.
What factors matter to you? Share other things that make a person less attractive in your eyes.
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