13 Behavior Mistakes That Push People Away From You When You First Meet
Why do some people attract others attention and some just spend time all alone? It turns out that it’s not just about our appearance and personal qualities. Some habits literally push us away from a person and we just don’t want to talk to them.
Bright Side loves romantic stories and knows almost everything about finding true love. Today, we’ll tell you about the main reasons that might stop you from being happy and building a strong relationship.
If you haven’t found your love yet, it’s probably time to review some spelling rules. According to a poll conducted on match.com, an online dating site, 96% of women aren’t interested in chatting with an ignorant person. By the way, men are less strict when it comes to grammar mistakes. Nevertheless, most respondents are likely to pay more attention to correct spelling, than to a potential partner’s excess weight or self-doubt.
12. Sleep deprivation
We should get enough sleep before a date or an important meeting since people who suffer from a lack of sleep look less attractive. It’s not just about our appearance: people unknowingly try to avoid those who look unhealthy. What’s more, sleep deprivation makes us nervous and grumpy. Scientists claim: it’ll take you a couple of nights without sleep to start pushing people away from you. But if you get enough rest, people around you will treat you as a reliable and friendly person.
In a stressful situation, our body launches a chemical “factory” where the adrenal glands release the hormones cortisol, adrenaline, and prolactin (in women.) A high cortisol level causes you to push potential partners away from you. You don’t even have to see each other in person: just seeing photos of you will reveal that you’re overwhelmed with stress.
10. No hobbies
You don’t have to be incredibly beautiful to attract the opposite gender. A study conducted on an online dating site has shown that creative people are as popular as beautiful ones. What does that mean?
- Men prefer women who like sports, dancing, traveling, and art.
- Women dream about men who travel, work out, cook, and don’t sleep at the movies.
9. “Wrong” smell
Body odor may play an important role when it comes to a potential long-term relationship. No, it’s not about perfume. The way a person smells depends on the genes that are responsible for their immune system. Of course, people don’t smell each other when they first meet but we subconsciously choose a person who smells “healthy.” Women are experts in this realm: they’re able to identify a partner with a “suitable” DNA that will contribute to the health of their children in the future.
8. Teeth problems
Healthy teeth and oral hygiene play a huge part in deciding whether you’re going to have a date or not. Internet users think that teeth issues can push a person away, even if everything else about you attracts them.
7. Poor manners
Bad table manners may mean that you won’t have a second chance. People think that noisy eating is one of the most disgusting habits. Answering phone calls and eating from your date’s plate are also blacklisted. Additionally, if you take a person to a fast food restaurant on a date or order dishes with a lot of garlic, you’re likely to fail.
6. Gothic paleness
Our skin tone also influences our appearance. Scientists have found out that a yellowish pigment in our skin tone makes us look more attractive. The thing is, melanin and carotenoids responsible for skin coloration are responsible for the immune system as well. People unknowingly look for a healthy partner, which is why pale skin pushes them away.
Here’s some good news: you don’t have to spend hours at the beach to be more attractive. Eat more vegetables and fruits, especially those that contain a large amount of carotenoids like carrots, tomatoes, apricots, or mangoes.
Women prefer confident men. A grumpy and brutish man attracts more attention than a smiling guy. It’s a fact: girls don’t like men that are too happy.
And if a woman is too confident, men usually think that she’s reserved or snobby. If everything in a girl’s image says, “I have really high self-esteem,” a man is unlikely to ask her out. So a wide smile will definitely attract a gentlemen’s attention.
4. Non-heroic appearance
Small facial scars can really enhance a man’s attractiveness. But as a rule, they attract short-term relationships only — people need other kinds of qualities to build a long-term relationship. But don’t go too far!
Active people are more likely to meet a partner. Lazy people are less successful, and it’s not just because they spend a lot of time at home watching TV. It’s all about our psychological mechanisms: ancient peoples didn’t like those who preferred to do nothing and thought they were useless. Modern people think the same way.
2. No friends
People who have many friends look more attractive. In a group, a person’s flaws “fade” because they appear more similar to the average group face, which is more attractive than the group members’ individual faces. That’s why even a plain girl can be a queen in the right company.
Psychologists call this phenomenon the cheerleader effect. For example, cheerleaders may be different (beautiful or not) when examined individually. But as a team, they all look gorgeous.
And here’s a piece of good news: you don’t have to have a lot of beautiful friends to look great. One pretty friend is enough to increase your chances.
1. Silly risk
Studies show that women like men who take risks, but not silly risks. In other words, extreme sports, bad habits, and dangerous driving won’t attract women. Risks like putting out fires or working with dangerous animals turn a man into a hero and a great partner.
Do you agree with these facts? Have you ever made any of these mistakes?