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5 Reasons Why People May Look for Dominant Partners


While women’s empowerment is being embraced all over the world, some ladies would still love to have a dominant partner. Research claims that girls are raised in such a way that they subconsciously respond sexually to a partner who takes charge and makes all the decisions. Many of us aren’t even aware that we’re attracting dominant partners and personality plays a significant role here.

Bright Side would love to highlight the reasons why attracting dominant partners is more of a pattern than a choice.

1. Women are attracted to bad guys.

This is no stereotype, but rather, a fact in and of itself. Dominant men are usually into excessive smoking and drinking, tattoos, and are into impulsive behaviors. These activities are, simply put, a thrill for women, so they become easy targets and more like damsels in distress. This, in turn, makes the “bad boys” adamant and in control. No wonder you go head over heels for men in power!

2. You choose someone who can make all the decisions for both of you.

There is an underlying belief that your life would be an easy ride if you didn’t have to make any decisions yourself. And because of this very same reason, you prefer to be with partners who can take the reins and make every decision for you. You then become accustomed to this pattern, which makes you totally dependent on them.

3. Nice people just seem boring to you.

You don’t prefer a partner who just likes to take romantic strolls, holding your hand the whole way. Instead, you prefer a partner who has an adventurous side, someone who can take you along on a wild ride where you are both thrilled by what life has to offer. Those are some real ’couple goals’ for you.

4. Don’t confuse dominance with aggression and abuse.

Certainly, being a dominant person is great, but sometimes this can also make a person violent. This doesn’t mean that dominant people aren’t loving, but they can love you to the extent that it makes them more controlling. Understand the difference between abuse and dominance. If you’re made to do things against your will, this is abuse. If you find yourself in a situation like this, get help by any means.

5. Childhood has more of an impact on your life than you think.

Eventually, your relationship is strongly determined by how you were raised. One or both of your parents were or are still dominant by nature. You’ve gotten used to this lifestyle and subconsciously, you seek the same traits in your partner too. Your submissive nature is a given and you end up attracting dominant partners to fulfill the pattern all over again. As you were raised with this very arrangement, you expect the same from your outside environment as well.

Do you have a dominant partner or are you one yourself? How has it changed your life? Let us know in the comments below.

Illustrated by Anastasiya Pavlova for Bright Side