9 Signs You’re Going to Break Up
We all dream of happy long-term relationships. However, it is not always possible to create a perfect love story. All of us go through a crisis at some point, and the question is are we able to overcome them?
Bright Side analyzed the most common mistakes and behavioral patterns in the majority of couples that may lead to a breakup. When you know these mistakes, it’s easier to avoid them.
1. Merging into each other
Relationships with ridiculously tight bonds where the partners merely dissolve into each other appear to be the most brittle. Sooner or later, one of the partners gets irritated by the other, which inevitably causes pain in the other partner. This is how a crisis begins. Such couples often break up, bringing a lot of pain to each other.
2. The illusion that your partner thinks just the way you do
Sometimes people subconsciously project their own thoughts, desires, and feelings onto others. The unfounded feeling of jealousy can be explained by this mechanism. It may provoke serious conflicts when a person doesn’t realize that their partner sees this world differently. It is necessary to comprehend and respect the fact that we all are different people.
3. A lack of communication
Sometimes you hear that people in love don’t need any words. It’s a big mistake because a key to a harmonious relationship is listening to each other and sharing feelings. When we don’t communicate enough, we risk never exploring and revealing each other’s personalities.
4. A lack of common plans
When freshly in love, young couples sometimes refuse to make common plans for the future. After their passion is gone, they have no idea what’s coming next and become frightened. In order to build a strong relationship, it is necessary to discuss future plans and not to avoid even the trickiest questions: children, finance, personal space, readiness for monogamy, etc.
5. "Saving" someone in a relationship
It may seem like a good healthy relationship when one of the partners constantly tries to heal, protect, or solve their partner’s problems. The “martyr“ is like a spoiled kid, getting all the attention. The ”saver" feels needed and important to someone. However, such a relationship is doomed. The “martyr” may heal and realize that he or she doesn’t need to be saved anymore. In the majority of cases, both of the partners profit from their positions.
6. Laziness and a lack of effort
Many couples are sure that harmony should appear by itself, without any extra efforts from them. When they finally face troubles, they feel like their relationship is doomed and don’t even try to find a solution.
It is necessary to understand that a relationship (both sexual and social) is built step by step, over and over again on each step of a couple’s evolution.
7. Unsolved conflicts
Disappointment and anger grow out of unsolved conflicts. It is necessary to recognize the amount of swallowed emotions in order for things not to escalate to a breakup. In a relationship, it is vital to discuss your problems.
Remember that conflicts are just a stage of a relationship that you have to overcome. You can wreck your love if you constantly hold your irritation with your partner.
8. A "worn-out" sexual affection
It’s an intimate relationship that makes you a couple and not just roommates. It is necessary to remember that you should nurture and grow your passion and that joy of touch that you gave each other in the beginning.
When one partner finds out that they are being cheated on, this leads to the end of the relationship in the majority of cases. However, a betrayed one always has the choice to restore trust or not. Nevertheless, it is important not to force a relationship if it’s not working out.
Illustrated by Julia Gurko for BrightSide.me