The Man-Woman Relationship Explained With a Pound of Apples
Imagine that you’re friends with Olivia. Olivia has 3 green apples. But you don’t need those green apples — you need a whole pound of red apples instead.
Of course, going to the market and buying a pound of red apples from someone who is ready to sell you what you need would have been the best decision in this situation. But this idea sounds so abstract and the market is so far away from your home. You ask yourself: What if there are no red apples there at all? What if the market is closed?
Olivia, however, is here in front of you. She’s cute. So you make quite a bold assumption that Olivia should have those red apples, she just hides them somewhere deep inside. So, quite logically, if you make some effort, she’ll give them to you.
“Olivia, do you want to go to a movie with me tonight?“ you ask her, feeling a little nervous. Olivia is a bit surprised but she agrees, especially because you pretend you really want to take her out. You take her to the movies. But even after that she still doesn’t give those precious red apples to you. ”What the heck is going on?" you ask yourself, but you take her out for coffee. You walk her dog, help her with home repairs, fix her car. But nothing happens. “What a vixen you are,” you think a bit angrily. However, you ask her to move in with you.
The price of those red apples is now very high. At the moment, you don’t even think about buying them at the market anymore. Olivia is the only person who can provide you with those red apples now. You believe that being with this girl is your destiny, and, as a result, you end up shouting at her, something like, “I’ve laid down my life for you, and you don’t even bother giving me those fricking apples!“ ”I don’t have any apples. Why on earth have you decided that I do?" she cries.
Really, why? I deliberately chose not to describe a situation when unscrupulous Olivia fools you just because she likes going out for coffee or movies. But what happens all the time in our life is that we are not fully honest about our intentions, and very often we don’t realize that people around us don’t always have what we are looking for. These people might not have a pound of red apples, they might not want to have 5 children with you, or spend their vacation together with you. They might be unable to have a heart-to-heart with you or love you. It’s okay. Just like it’s okay to want all these wonderful things.
It’s not okay to racketeer, trying to shake down the first nice person who comes our way for what they actually don’t have, just because somewhere deep inside they might still have it.
No, they don’t. If someone has something for you, they will gladly share it with you by themselves. It won’t be coming from the depth of their heart, but from all of it.