What Sleeping Positions Will Be Best for You as a Couple

Sleeping next to someone has tremendous benefits for our health starting from reducing stress to boosting our immune system. But psychologists are also sure that sleeping positions can reveal a lot about the relationship between the partners and point out the unspoken problems. So it’s time to find out what our subconscious is trying to tell us and see how it reflects in our daily life.

Bright Side believes that we should take every chance to learn more about ourselves and our true feelings, so we suggest taking look at these couples’ sleeping positions and their hidden meaning.

1. Spooning

Spooning is a very intimate and comforting position that provides a lot of emotional support and skin-to-skin contact. The partner who acts as the “big spoon” is likely to be a very protective and giving person, while the “little spoon” truly enjoys the feeling of this protection, but may need some extra nurturing in a relationship. Sleeping in this position means that partners can rely on each other and that they have managed to create a safe environment for themselves.

This spooning position is good for the health of both partners since it doesn’t put pressure on the back and helps relieve snoring. However, partners should pay attention to their shoulder and knee joints and make sure they don’t hurt.

2. Intertwined

This is an extremely sensual position that resembles a close hug. Being fully intertwined during sleep is common among new couples, who still can’t keep their hands off each other, even in their sleep. Couples who have been in a long-term relationship rarely sleep this way, but if they do, it can be a sign of incredible passion or may indicate codependency in a relationship.

Despite being very romantic, this isn’t the best sleeping position in terms of health. Close physical contact doesn’t leave much space for breathing and partners may suffer from body aches in the morning because of joint stiffness.

3. Back-to-back

Sleeping back to back is a relaxed position that allows both partners to enjoy physical connection but still have their own space. It indicates that there’s a healthy balance between intimacy and personal independence in the relationship. Partners who choose this position feel comfortable with each other and don’t need too much reassurance about their love, but still want to express their tender feelings.

Since both partners sleep on their side, this is a healthy position for their backs. As a bonus, they can place their hands any way they like. But partners should be careful with their joints, to prevent aches and pains.

4. Face-to-face without touching

While the absence of touching may seem like a sign of a problem, this is not always the case. Sleeping in this position may indicate that partners crave something more in the relationship, like attention, intimacy, or communication, but haven’t received it so far. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, especially if partners are able to listen to each other and grow from that experience.

This position is comfortable in terms of physical health but partners should bring forth some effort to prevent any psychological discomfort. This position is perfect for pillow talk, which can help boost intimacy and promote an open conversation about the feelings and needs of each other.

5. On the chest

Couples who choose this position have strong cooperation skills and see each other as a team. They trust each other and are ready to face all their problems together, but romance and tenderness are still present in their relationship. Like spooning, this position shows the protective side of one of the partners.

Despite all the romantic touching, let’s face it, this position isn’t very comfortable. Partners may suffer from numbness or stiffness of the limbs or feel too hot because of close, skin-to-skin contact.

6. On different sides of the bed

On the one hand, this position may indicate the independence and self-sufficiency of the partners. However, the lack of physical touch may point out certain problems and resentment in the relationship. If partners move away from each other as soon as they get to bed, trying to fall asleep quickly, this could be a disturbing sign of an unresolved hidden conflict that is bothering both partners.

The closed body position and the desire to sleep separately indicate a high level of frustration and anxiety. Partners are distancing themselves from the problem and prefer to ignore it, instead of talking things through.

7. Starfish

This position is comfortable for the person who acts as the “starfish” but brings a lot of discomfort to the other partner. The “starfish” takes up all the space, leaving the other partner on the edge of the bed. This sleeping position may indicate how the roles are distributed in the relationship: one partner acts selfishly, absorbing all the space, while the other one tends to compromise and diminish their needs.

The same goes for the health benefits. The “starfish” get all the benefits like back pain relief and waking up well-rested and fresh. The other partner has to put up with less sleeping space and the higher possibility of spending the night with a snorer: sleeping in this position can worsen its symptoms.

8. Both on the stomach

This position may indicate some trust problems in the relationship. It means that both partners are trying to shut the other partner off and hide their real feelings. Partners may struggle with anger and vulnerability and feel too much anxiety to freely express their emotions. If you notice that this sleeping position turns into a habit, it’s probably time to have an honest conversation with your partner.

Besides, sleeping on the stomach isn’t beneficial at all. It puts unnecessary pressure on the spine, especially on the lower back, and forces you to turn your head to the side. If you can’t stop sleeping in this position, put a pillow under your stomach to relieve pressure on your spine.

9. Leg hug

The leg hug is a gentle and tender sign of a desire for more emotional connection. If both partners do it and act responsive, it’s a good sign that shows passion and love in the relationship. Both partners see this relationship as a union and are loyal to each other. But if only one partner does all the touching, it may be the time to evaluate the balance in the relationship and what each partner brings to the table.

The leg hug provides a variety of options for sleeping positions for both partners so they both can have a good night’s sleep and find the position that works best for them.

10. Front-to-front

This position is similar to being intertwined but provides the partners with more freedom. Sleeping this way shows that partners are generally happy and satisfied with the relationship. They are compatible and live in harmony with each other. Partners show their closeness, but don’t suffocate each other with constant touching.

Sleeping front-to-front may be ideal for having late-night conversations, but may not work for all couples because most people don’t like to sleep next to someone breathing in their face all night long.

11. Head on the shoulder

This position is very similar to the sleeping on the chest of your partner, but has a different vibe. It indicates that one partner acts as a protector who is always there to provide some support, while the other one leans on them for help. It shows that one partner is more dominant, but in a healthy way and partners are confident in their feelings and are full of love.

Sleeping in this position has similar drawbacks, like all the other positions where partners are too close to each other. There’s a high chance the partners will wake to with body aches because of an uncomfortable limb position during the night.

12. Tetherball

Tetherball is perfect for the couples who like to sleep in different positions or toss and turn a lot during the night, but still want to have some physical contact. For example, one partner can sleep on their back and put their hand on the other partner’s back while they sleep in the fetal position. It indicates that partners care about each other and are ready to compromise to meet each other’s needs.

These partners constantly want to express their love for their partner, but they don’t want to suffocate them with their care and attention. This position provides a good night’s sleep for both partners and doesn’t require a lot of adjustment.

What sleeping position do you and your partner choose? Do you think it reflects your relationship? We’d love to read about your experience in the comments.

Illustrated by Alena Tsarkova for Bright Side
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