Why We Desperately Need to Fall Crazy in Love
Imagine that you’re enjoying living your life with all your hobbies and likes. You believe that every decision you make is right and that there’s simply no other way. But then...boom! Suddenly you’re in love, your whole life is shaken up, and 2 totally different worlds unite to make you an even more wonderful person. Let’s explore what changes love manages to bring into our lives and hearts.
Bright Side admires powerful things that are able to turn people into better versions of themselves. Here are 10 reasons that explain why we need to fall in love as soon as possible.
1. Love teaches us empathy.
We need empathy in our relationships as it helps us understand the feelings of our partners. And when we’re able to capture their emotions at a certain moment, we know what to say and how to comfort them. This is an amazing experience that makes our bonds and relationships stronger.
Some people note that they start to be more empathetic not only toward those close to them but to strangers as well. They start to believe that punishments and judgments are better off left to someone else. But we as people are probably supposed to help each other.
2. Love gives us patience.
If you’ve never understood why on earth you need to be patient with others, love will teach you this lesson. Patience is the foundation of which trusting relationships are built on. There will come a day when you realize that your mate isn’t the way you expected and you’ll have to deal with it to avoid disappointment and frustration.
3. Love shows us the importance of being kind.
It’s true that when love arrives in our minds we idealize our other halves. But when the magic of these feelings dissolves a bit, we start to see all their weaknesses. And at this moment it’s important to understand that we need to be kind to them in any situation. Check the example below to better understand the point.
Imagine that your partner is really bad at cooking. On one hand, you could say, “You’re so awful at this, we’re better off eating somewhere else.” But on the other hand, you could think of how difficult it could be (especially if you don’t have any experience) and cook something together. Even if the result doesn’t meet your expectations you’re going to have a lot of fun and this will surely motivate your partner to work at getting better at cooking or whatever it is you both are working on.
4. Love is a pillar of motivation.
Remember that time when you first felt butterflies in your belly and shy admiration in your heart? We believe at that point you tried to behave a bit differently and did your best to make an impression on the person you had feelings for. In some cases, people are able to reach goals they never could’ve dreamed of or change their lifestyle because of the inspiration love gave them. It’s a pillar of motivation and hope, and a lot of stories confirm this to be true.
5. Love shows us the line between self-awareness and unconditionality.
Sooner or later, love will make everyone understand exactly who they are. It’s no surprise that during this period, people tend to spend a lot of time together and lose themselves in each other. But this blissful period eventually passes and a new stage of “breaking-in” appears.
At this time, love will force you to define your boundaries and make others treat you with respect. You will have to learn where you end and the other person begins. It’s wonderful being in a relationship but it’s important to understand that you will never become a single whole.
6. Love helps us to understand ourselves better.
Trying to be perfect is not a good ingredient for a relationship at all. All you need to do is be honest and transparent even if you have many fears. It isn’t wise to pretend to be someone you aren’t, and love can help you learn about yourself, your needs, weaknesses, and strengths. Your relationships will only thrive once you know what you truly want and how to get it.
7. Love broadens our interests.
When your universe mixes with someone else’s world, you can often find yourself in the middle of something new and wonderful — even if it’s something you’ve never known or have been interested in. It can also make you want to explore new aspects of life because of the energy that’s surging inside of you.
In fact, you may become interested in more than just gripping books or watching movies together. Some people say that love made actual writers out of them or sent them across the world, and others share that they became interested in living a more healthy lifestyle. There are so many things to explore in the world — let love show them to you!
8. Love teaches us to forgive.
We’re all human beings, and every one of us can make mistakes. This isn’t an easy thing to accept, especially when we have high expectations of people. But when it comes to love’s power, there’s nothing that can stop us from forgiving. We often need time to realize it, but you also have to remember that you can do it. Many different people confirm that love gives us the power to forgive others.
9. Love makes us stronger.
Love does make us stronger, but some people think that this refers only to experiences linked to breakups or cheating. But this isn’t entirely true. There are a lot of hard times couples can face, and if they’re able to go through thick and thin together, this is what will make both of them stronger.
We believe that strength is also about the many things mentioned above. You become stronger when you learn how to be patient, forgiving, and kind. You’ll learn why it’s important to show empathy and communicate openly.
10. Love makes us feel alive.
Can you name any other experiences in your life that were able to evoke as many different and sometimes controversial emotions? Love makes us live life to the fullest. It shows us new things and forces us to act. Love is life and this article proves that all to be true!
Has love changed you? Have you ever had to leave something behind to get it? Tell us down below!
Illustrated by Alena Sofronova for BrightSide.me