I Get So Nervous When My Crush Is Around

Hi everyone! Today I got a message from Tasha who feels shy around her crush. She needs to remove that boundary and finally have enough confidence to build relationships. Well, good thing you’re here because I’m going to help you out.

“Hi, Sue,
I have a huge problem. I find one guy attractive but I can’t help shaking around him. I just feel like I always make a fool out of myself when I talk to him. My hands start to shake, my face turns to stone, and I forget words.

I’ve always thought that I was a pretty outgoing person but I’m not me when he’s around. So I just end up avoiding him. How do I break this wall? I can’t even look at him! What should I do?”

First of all, it’s not just you. Most of us get nervous when our crushes are around. It also happened to me, dear Tasha. When you like someone, you feel the need to seek their approval. We constantly ask ourselves, “How am I looking today?” or “Is my breath okay?” or “What is he/she thinking about me?”

Second of all, it’s normal to feel this way. You’re not the only one like this in the world. Maybe your crush is also shy around you. But try to enjoy the feeling of liking someone instead of suffering through it. Those butterflies should make you fly.
I have some tips for you on how to break the wall. They also worked for me.

  1. Put on a happy face. A smile is always better than a dry face. Let your crush understand that you’re open to communication. Don’t lose focus. The first time it may be difficult to start smiling, but each time it will get easier.
  2. Laugh if they make a joke. That can help to break the ice.
  3. Concentrate on your breath when you start feeling anxious. Breathe in deeply and slowly.
  4. Be polite even if you want to run away when you’re nervous.
  5. Be yourself and don’t lie to please your crush. They may ask you questions, like if you like thrillers or skateboarding. There is no need to pretend that you like the same things. I’m sure you will find something in common anyway.
  6. Look at your crush. There is no need to stare at them constantly. For example, you may meet him/her in a shop. Don’t run away, but maintain eye contact for 2-3 seconds. Let them understand that you’re fine if they approach you. But don’t forget to smile a bit.

    I hope my tips will help you, Tasha, and that you’ll finally be able to have a normal conversation with your crush!
    What’s about you, guys? Have you ever felt anxious around your crush? What helped you?

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