Pros and Cons of Having a Boy Best Friend When You’re a Girl

Hey, everyone!

How are you doing during this busy back-to-school season? I still can’t adjust to this CRAZY schedule, so I’m spending quite a bit of time scrolling through my social media feed instead of going to bed early. (My advice... don’t do this!) Anyway, while I was looking through my messages yesterday I found one that sounds like a CRY FOR HELP, and it’s from a girl who has a GUY BFF:

If you only knew how familiar that sounds to me, Olivia... I’ve been there too, and when my best friend Jack tried to kiss me all of a sudden, it felt like a DOG LICKED MY FACE. YIKES! Why? Just WHY?... We had a long conversation afterward and it turned out Jack thought I was in love with him because of the “flirting” looks I was giving to him in the school cafeteria that day (I totally WASN’T!!!).

Anyway, having a guy BFF has its pros and cons and we all need to know them so that we don’t get shocked when WILD things like this happen.

PROS of having a guy BFF:

  • He won’t judge you and he’ll support you. Your friendship can be deep enough to have life-changing conversations free from judgment and lecturing.
  • There’ll be less drama. From what I know about boys so far, they’re not really into drama and gossip. So, your friendship with a boy has less chances of being “toxic.”
  • You’ll see things from a different perspective. Boys and girls are different, and if you make friends with girls only, you can’t “peek behind the curtain” and get to know the world of boys better.

CONS of having a guy BFF:

  • He can get jealous. If your guy BFF suddenly realizes he’s in love with you, he may get furious when he sees you hanging out with other boys.
  • You may fall for him YOURSELF. Yes, that happens too. Feelings can make your friendship way too complicated, but if your guy BFF has the same feelings for you, CONGRATS! You now have that special someone who loves and understands you.
  • Sometimes him being SUPPORTIVE may turn into him being PROTECTIVE, and you may not like it. As a guy, your best friend can feel the urge to “start a war” whenever someone hurts your feelings, and that may make you feel awkward.

So, dear Olivia, it looks like you’ve enjoyed all the benefits of being friends with a boy and now it’s time to pay the piper. But don’t get upset, my friend. There is AT LEAST ONE THING you can do to save your friendship — talk to Mike! Yep, I know it may seem about as enjoyable as HAVING A TOOTH REMOVED for you right now, but you really need to do it.

Tell him you only see him as your friend and that you APPRECIATE YOUR FRIENDSHIP so much — the thought of losing it gives you chills. Chances are he may have misinterpreted some of your signals and he got them all wrong. An honest talk will help both of you realize what is really going on between you.

I’m sending you a virtual kiss and a high-five, and I know you CAN DO IT!

XOXO, Sue

Dear followers, have your best friends ever fallen in love with you? If you’re a girl with a guy BFF, what do you personally like and dislike about this relationship and why? Let’s discuss it in the comments!

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