19 Unobvious Etiquette Rules That Reveal a Good Upbringing
The understanding of “good manners” still exists in the present time. We all try to be polite and think we are brought up well. But as they say, no one notices tact, while tactlessness is seen by everyone. However, apart from obvious etiquette rules there are those that we don’t follow because we never think of them.
We at Bright Side decided to put together a list of common courtesy rules that are pretty vague but when we follow them we reveal our good manners.
1. Home and guests
- Is it OK to ask your guests to remove their shoes in your home? You should make this decision for yourself, however, etiquette experts say that if you’re not ready to see someone walking in your home in outside shoes, you should warn your guests beforehand. It’s definitely bad manners to ask your guests to remove their shoes at a party when everyone has been invited to wear evening attire. Still, if guests take off their shoes, it would be proper to offer them disposable house shoes instead. It is indecent to offer them your own personal house shoes.
- Making excuses about your home, like for a mess or a repair, shows disrespect of the owner to themselves. When you invite a guest, you express your trust in this person, so the guest should respect that and accept your home the way it is.
2. A car
- If you borrowed your friend’s car, you should return it with a greater amount of gas. Of course, the car interior should be clean as well.
- The safest place in a car is the seat behind the driver. At the same time, the most comfortable seat is the seat on the right in the back row. That’s why those seats should be offered to the eldest passenger or a woman, while the youngest should sit in the middle. That’s the unspoken hierarchy.
- It’s impolite and even dangerous when a passenger sitting near a driver is consumed with their phone or sleeps. Good manners and safety rules say that it’s proper to lead a calm, not very emotional conversation without dramatic gestures, and to be able to realize when the situation on the road requires a pause in the conversation so that the driver can focus.
- If you cancelled a meeting for some reason it should be your initiative to arrange a new one. This way you show respect to the other attendee(s).
- If you see an acquaintance when you’re with other people, it’s correct to introduce the people to each other. Even if you have to spend a little of your time making conversation, the people will feel more comfortable in each other’s presence.
- Everyone knows that it’s rude to shake somebody’s hand while wearing gloves. It’s necessary to stand up when shaking hands and it’s not allowed to shake hands when you smoke and cannot throw your cigarette away. Hands are not to be shaken in the bathroom either.
- If you have forgotten a person’s name, don’t try to avoid confusion by skipping the personal reference. Simply admit it. “I’m sorry, I can’t remember your name” sounds simple, polite, and honest. If you want to try to remember the names of people at an event, when meeting them repeat their name, like, "Nice to meet you, Anna!’
4. Impersonal communication
- If you can’t reach a person by phone on the first try, there’s no need to repeat your attempts endlessly. If your question isn’t urgent, it’s polite to give the person you called at least 2 hours to see they missed your call and call you back.
- You should answer a call after 2-3 rings so that the caller can have time to prepare. If you are the one who is calling, you should drop the call after 5 rings if the person you’re calling doesn’t pick up.
- In this day and time, calls can be pretty stressful. If your question is not urgent and you can opt for a text message, choose the text. In this case, you’ll waste less time and your question will be more precise. Your texting recipient will answer it when they have time or find the answer to your question. This advice is more relevant to business etiquette, because “voice intervention” can also be considered an intrusion into personal space.
5. Personal space
- By putting headphones on, a person shows that they don’t want to speak at the moment. You shouldn’t try to interrupt them with a conversation unless you have urgent questions. There is actually a specific etiquette when wearing headphones. One of its main rules is to silence the volume and take them out of your ears before talking to someone. This way, you show respect to the other person.
- Personal space exists even in a public toilet. If there’s a possibility, you should choose the stall not next to the one that is taken.
- If your child has a separate room, you should knock on the door before entering it. This action adheres to etiquette rules, and your child learns that they should do the same when entering your room.
- You should also remember that a person’s work desk is definitely their personal space. So, it’s impolite to sit at your co-worker’s desk without an invitation, to look at their screen, to use their computer or, to take something from their desk, even if it’s just paper clips.
- Is it good manners to give flowers to a man? Definitely yes, but there should a specific reason to do it, like a birthday, professional achievement, or sports celebration. But it’s worth knowing that there are specific “men’s” flowers. They are roses, orchids, chrysanthemums, gerberas, carnations, arum lilies, lilies, sunflowers, bamboo, and cornflags.
- Both women and men can be the one who invites their companion to the theater. But it’s believed that it is the man who should show tickets at the entrance, as well as open the door for a woman.
- The rule for snacks refers to small parties with a buffet. Before you take a 2nd or 3rd helping, be sure that the quantity of snacks is approximately twice as big as the number of guests.
Do you follow these etiquette rules, or are they new to you? Tell us in the comments below.