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A Guy Refused to Pay for a Girl on a Date, and His Reasoning Raises Crucial Questions

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Honestly, her behavior is inappropriate. First of all, you need to simply respect the social position of a person at the particular period of time. Of course, student normally can't pay so much, and it's not because he is greedy and doesn't respect his date, but simply because this is too expensive at this time. Some people just untactful, and I feel disappointed in this girl..
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Actually, I would do the same as this guy, if this situation happened to me. Not because I'm greedy and don't want to treat a lazy, but because it's impolite to behave like this on one of the first dates.
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I was taught that if you get invited you see what the other person orders and find something that costs roughly the same or, preferably, a bit less.
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well, if you invite, you pay, unless you agree on some other arrangement, however it is rude to order super-expensive meals, when you are invited.
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I feel she’s being inconsiderate and rude for trying him to pay something very expensive knowing she pick the place and order expensive dinner
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I'm Married.
I think a Lady should be a bit aware about the surroundings.
My lady was modest, I paid on her several times (dating from time to time).
First date was coffee and cake, times 2. i paid gladly. WHEN WE FELT CLOSER, the bill became 40$-50$ for both of us.
Then we had an agreement. i pay the bill, she pays the tip. I learned she is a sweetheart and by herself social-aware. She tipped well. So I married her
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I think there is nothing wrong with sharing the bills. I feel way better doing that. That means, that I can order what I really want without causing financial distress to anyone. :) I also halve the costs in my relationship, in this way, we don't have to argue about money. Peace of mind. :)
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It completely depends on the situation. To me whoever earns more should pay. Doesn't matter boy or girl
If they're same level of living so go Dutch. Fare
By the way boys feel they want to pay because they like to be supportive. So if u earn enough so be supportive. why not. We like it ?
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This "Lady" is a clown with dingle-berries
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This Woman taking us back to "We are kept" days. Shame on Her. And he could've been a put out or get out for it after type or person...notice I said Person...but instead spoke His peace and was honest as a Student with limited income trying to find a decent partner in this world.
Then...asks her out again maybe trying for a benefit of the doubt misunderstanding.
Little Lady it's time to wear the Big Girl Panties and it sounds to me you missed out on a beautiful mind on this date.
Don't ever wonder why you get treated as a side piece with your attitude.
Drive through and a picnic table in the park getting to know each other would've been the perfect date.
*Peace*
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if we're going by the logic that the person inviting should pay, the woman invited the man, so she should pay for her own lobster and his pizza. also, if she wants to be respected she shouldn't be greedy and order something expensive. the guy must be desperate if he wanted to meet her again lol
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It’s 2019, establish financial boundaries prior to the date. Her behavior was completely out of line and so pretentious. She orders a “dish” that costs nearly 5 times as much as His? She shouldn’t be dating anyone!
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There are two applicable rules here: 'Whoever invites, pays.' and 'Guests order from the middle of the menu or cheaper, unless encouraged otherwise.'

Since she did the inviting, it was on her to pay for the entire meal. He actually did her a favor by paying for his own meal. (And even if he hadn't, he chose responsibly, like a good guest ought.)
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In this modern era, let everything go clear. Everybody can communicate any oh their thought. If a man invites the woman, say it. And it means that the man will choose the menu and say it's on him. Or, even if the man let the woman choose, still say it's on him. And...helo girls and women,...if he doesn't say so, just assume that you will pay your own meals.

Furthermore, avoid the impression of becomming a "robber". Not all men are rich or willing to spend that much on a date. And, as illustrated on the WA dialog, what girls are you thinking when you choose expensive menus, then expect the men to treat you? And you both are students?

Be realistics, your romance life is not only on the dates. In marriage that would be relatively more complicated. So you both need to communicate whatever you want each other does.
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People who start to date should start with Easy dishses like coffee & Cake !

Then the man pays by these rules:

First 3 times he pays all, the woman starts chipping in slightly` maybe the money for the tip.

Young people who aren't rich ,stay on easy meals (like beer and pasta :-) )

Lobster , steak & Wine (and expensive dishes) are for married couples and well established couples.
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