Why French Women Don’t Struggle to Get Male Attention and What Self-Esteem Has to Do With It
All over the world, French women are considered to be the standard of attraction and sexuality so it’s no wonder that all the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity strive to unravel their secrets. Jamie Cat Callan, a famous American writer, who wrote a well-known book French Women Don’t Sleep Alone where the secrets of the amazing attractiveness and self-confidence of French women are revealed. In this article, you’ll get the chance to learn about some of the most important things that French women do (and don’t do) and how you can be like them.
We at Bright Side invite you to sit back and imagine yourself as a French woman so that you can gain the most out of your interpersonal relationships.
6. They flirt, no matter if they have a partner or not.
Our mentality suggests that if a woman has a permanent partner, the flirting is forbidden; otherwise, it’s regarded as deception and almost as cheating. A French lady treats eye batting in a different way because she knows that if she no longer attracts other people, over time, her own man will lose interest in her, as well.
Yet, don’t think we’re calling on you to give broad hints. Of course, we’re only talking about innocent coquetry. Why not smile at someone in the supermarket or strike up a conversation while waiting in line? French women remember that they’re interesting and attractive and they don’t mind showing it, thus arousing the feeling of competitiveness in their partner.
5. They surround themselves with beautiful things.
Admit it, you surely have a set of underwear “or “a special occasion” or a makeup kit waiting for its “defining” moment? Well, a French beauty will never do such a thing. All things waiting for their moment should be used right now; otherwise, this time may never come.
She knows that self-esteem is not made up of the things that surround her and the things she’s wearing. A French woman creates her daily look, estimating the impression her appearance will create on others, and thereby raising her self-esteem by catching the admiring glances of men.
4. They put their needs first.
This is perhaps one of the main reasons why the personal life of French beauties is just fine. They know for sure that if they’re satisfied with their lives, other people will feel comfortable around them. No sacrifice, no “family and kids go first.” First of all, you need to satisfy your own demands. Then there will be no feeling you’re overwhelmed and exhausted, which, often leads to the loss of a partner’s respect since few are interested in a person sacrificing their beauty, health, and time for the sake of others.
A French woman won’t lock herself at home, thus depriving herself of communication. The main component of her charm is the fact that the man she chose as a life partner still realizes he can lose her at any moment.
3. They enjoy the moment.
The essence of French joie de vivre is to enjoy the moment and to live here and now. Sometimes, happiness hides in details we don’t notice, either fearing the future or recalling the past.
French women know how to catch the moment and how to enjoy the things happening to them right now. Whether it’s drinking tea on a balcony or watching her friends smile at her hilarious joke. Create your “delights” yourself. Nothing lasts forever, but you can enjoy your life right now. Don’t wait for a special joyful moment — create it on your own.
2. They know what individuality means
No matter how far your appearance is from perfect, one can always see if you’re well-groomed, and this is what catches the eye of the opposite sex. Perhaps, everyone agrees that the original is better than a copy. French women understood this long ago. After all, when creating our unique image, we embrace and nourish our uniqueness. Something only we have, whether it’s a slightly elongated nose or a gap between our teeth. There’s no place for cliched beauty imposed by public opinion.
French women know how to profitably present their merits and hide their imperfections. That’s the thing one should learn. Search for your own style and work on it. This will both raise your self-esteem and will make your relationships stronger. If you’re satisfied with yourself, others mirror this attitude.
1. They get rid of stress in their “secret garden.”
At some point in our lives, we all experience negative emotions, whether you’re a French, an American, or a German woman. Only the way you get rid of negativity differs. A French woman won’t take it out on the people around her, seek solace in desserts, or complain about her griefs to her friends. She’ll go to her “secret garden.”
The “secret garden” is a place or action that restores energy, provides necessary rest, and a sort of a reboot. It can be an interesting book, a solo hike, or a professional massage. It’s better not to tell anyone about your “secret garden” — let it be a secret. After this restoration, a French beauty feels well-rested and full of energy. So if you feel that stress is beginning to harm your well-being, your self-interest beginning to waver, and the interest in life beginning to disappear, you’d better find your “secret garden” as soon as possible.
Bonus: Low self-esteem is always just the beginning.
We’re sure that women of all nations know a couple of tricks helping them raise their self-esteem and find their inner balance. Maybe you’ll share your secrets with us?
Illustrator Oleg Guta for BrightSide.me