I Rewarded My Kid Generously After He Stood Up to the School Tyrant

It doesn’t matter if a kid attends public or private school, since the problem of intimidation is prevalent everywhere. Almost every school has at least one kid who likes to boss others around and even being violent towards them. And it’s scary to think that about 1 in 5 children in US school are victims of these situations. In some cases though, kids don’t accept the intimidation with their hands crossed, and they instead choose to go into attack mode themselves.

Kids are only a mirror of their parents and those who choose to intimidate others usually pick up this behavior from home. Also, a kid might be missing attention from their parents and one way to lash out and gain attention is by being mean to others. This method is guaranteed to make everyone look at them.

Additionally, some older siblings might be the tyrants at home in order to feel more powerful. This behavior might be perceived by the younger sibling as normal, and they could be acting similarly at school, since at home they are oppressed. What’s important to understand is that kids don’t realize how wrong their behavior is simply because nobody has told them so.

Here at Bright Side we took a good look at this situation and looked at all the possible solutions. An action or parenting method isn’t inherently wrong, but it definitely depends on the way parents communicate something to their children.

• The first resort should never be violence. It’s best for kids to learn that when a situation gets ugly, they can walk away and talk to a teacher or any other adult who can decompress things.
• When they get home, they can talk about it with their parents, and they can call the other kid’s custodians in order to talk about the matter and find a possible solution.
• A good method is for a kid to ask their tyrant why they are behaving the way they do. This is an acknowledgment that the problems does not belong to the victim of the attack, but to the perpetrator.
• However, when you’ve tried every peaceful solution but nothing has worked, it is okay to teach your kid to fight back. Many parents take their children to self-defense classes in order to make them feel more confident when they need to protect themselves.
• Most of the time, when a kid stands up for themselves they get left alone, since the tyrant realizes that this is not someone to mess with.
• There is a possibility that both kids get suspended after a violent incident.
• It is okay to reward your child after standing up for themselves. They should feel that they have your support in cases of need. However, you should make sure that they know violence is never the first solution they should resort to.
• For a child to know that they can fend for themselves, it surely lifts their confidence by a lot as long as they don’t become tyrants themselves.

School intimidation is nothing to play with and thankfully schools and parents are starting to become more and more experienced on how to deal with it. It is very interesting how Finland chooses to deal with these events.