I Threw Away a 6-Year-Old Lunch After She Stole My Kid’s Lunchbox

Family & kids
7 months ago

A mother got furious when her six-year-old daughter returned home in tears. The reason? A classmate stole her $50 bento lunchbox. In response to the school’s lack of action, she decided to take matters into her own hands.

She shared her story.

So my sister bought my daughter (6-years-old) a bento box that cost 50 dollars. Thursday after school, my daughter came home, and while unpacking her backpack like I usually do, I noticed that her bento box was not in there. When I asked her where it was, she stated that a girl in her class named Audrey (fake name) had taken it and refused to give it back.

I asked if she went to her teacher, and she said yes, but her teacher told her that it was just a lunchbox, and it shouldn’t matter. Now, Audrey’s name isn’t new to my household; she and other girls always picked on my daughter, and no matter how many times I went to the school about it, nothing was done. To say I was furious was the least.

The next day, I went to the school 30 minutes before lunchtime and requested a meeting with the teacher and the principal. They brought my daughter down, and I explained the situation, and they had someone get Audrey.

Audrey brought the lunchbox to “prove” that it was hers, but I asked them to open the lunch box because my daughter’s name was inside, and long behold, when she opened it, there was my daughter’s name as clear as day. When I requested she gives it back to my daughter, she began crying.

The teacher asked if it would be okay if Audrey kept it for the day since her food was already in there, and I said no, they had 5 minutes to find something else to put her food in, or I would be dumping it out. Instead of finding her a closed container, they began arguing with me, so I stood up and grabbed the bento box, and in front of all of them, I threw the food out into the trash can.

Grabbing my daughter’s hand, I walked out of the office with the bento box, leaving them to comfort the crying girl. Hours later, I told my sister what happened, and she said that even though I had the right to be mad, I could’ve just let her have it, and she would’ve bought my daughter another bento box. I feel like it’s the principle, though: why should we have to buy something again for my daughter that she already had because some entitled kid wanted what’s hers? Am I wrong?

And people defended her behavior.

  • “This kid’s parents are as bad as her, if my child came home with anything I know I didn’t buy her, I would be asking questions and bringing it back to the school. Not packing her food in it!” Apart_Foundation1702 / Reddit
  • “Audrey was facing absolutely zero consequences for her actions from the school. She was going to cry her way out of it. She has finally faced the consequences.” Conscious-Arm-7889 / Reddit
  • “No, you’re not wrong. Audrey learned a lesson that day, and so did the principal and teacher — you are not one to be played with.” Remote-Crow3980 / Reddit
  • “Actions have consequences. Audrey learned a tough lesson today and will maybe make better choices in the future.” Known_Supermarket_37 / Reddit

Raising kids is not easy, but there are certain behaviors every parent should be aware of. Taking responsibility for their actions is one of them.

Preview photo credit superricecnt / Reddit

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7 months ago
Nothing will stay buried forever, apart from this comment.

You were right to defend your daughter and her possessions, but dumping out another child's food steps a bit over the line. Yes, the school could provide "Audrey" a lunch from the cafeteria, but it must be taken into account that some kids have allergies and/or intolerance to some foods. The school was totally inappropriate in their lack of response and respect for you and your child. Why was the question of contacting Audrey's patents not approached? Hmmm...

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Parents allowing the child to keep the lunch box and the child feeling that entitled is why there are now organized crimes being committed in retail requiring stores to shut down due to billions of dollars in losses! There are no consequences for anything anymore and it is ridiculous. The mom did the right thing.

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So let me get this right. The parent or guardians of this child pack a lunch in a lunchbox that didn't belong to this child? And the teacher and principal didn't see the harm in that? Case dismissed court will reside for the day ..

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7 months ago
We've got nothing to hide. Except this comment.

I would have taken it a step further and called the police to report petty theft while in the principals office starring Aubrey in the eyes.

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While she is correct in her actions I still side with the sister, how is being cruel to a 6yr old regardless of the childs actions ever justified by an adult

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7 months ago
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Nope this is how Karen's are created the mom was right who's going to keep buying stuff they already bought the little thief needs to start learning now u can't always get what you want

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I agree that she should have taken the lunch box back but why deprive Audrey of her food? She could have tipped it out on to the principal's desk surely? Tipping it into the waste bin was petty.

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Petty? I disagree. OP was 100% correct..the principal & teacher chose to not cooperate...that they chose an entitled spoiled brat and not find a container nor empty it themselves? Nope..OP you are 100% correct!!

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You know what my wife would have done the same thing.. I would have too but I would like to meet the girls parents to explain that the next time something like this was to happen again or even her daughter bulling my daughter we was going to have problems

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7 months ago
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If the principal as well as the teacher refused to do anything then you did the right thing because they allowed that child to steal your child's lunchbox as well as bully her continuously. Your next step should be to contact the school board and let them know hey my child has been bullied and the teacher and the set principal has refused to do anything about it. All school's have a no tolerance policy and bullying falls into set category so go full berserk on that one because that little entitled brat need to learn a life lesson before it gets out of hand. Also kudos to you mom for standing up for your daughter!!!!!! I would've done the exact thing and I also would've told her that if she bullied my child again I will call the police and have her arrested since the principal and the teacher refused to do their job and stop you you're a little monster

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The only thing I would add to this statement is that I would also have the teacher and set principle arrested for child endangerment for allowing her to continually be bullied.

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You were absolutely in the right. I applaud you for standing up for your daughter. This kind of bullying is unacceptable. What would the little tyrant have taken next? This is her parents fault. You are a good parent.

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To allow Audrey to keep the lunchbox would enable her to steal again. No consequences, continued behavior...I totally agree with the mother's decision

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Agreed, Janis. Even letting her keep it for the rest of the day would have sent the message, "It's okay to steal another person's property, because there won't be any consequences". And, you're right. If there were no consequences, then she would continue her bad behavior. Who knows what other crimes she would commit when she gets older.

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Well if the mother is sure that was her daughter's bento I'm firmly on
her side. If her daughter assumed Audrey took her bento because it looked similar to her own that's another.story

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Excuse me! What do you me "if the mother was sure that it was her daughter's bento". The mother told them to open the lunchbox that the arrogant, thieving brat had the nerve to steal, because her daughter's name was on the inside of her lunchbox. The mother said, "when she opened it, there was my daughter’s name as clear as day". No offense, Kim, but did you even read the article?

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I wouldn't have thrown her food in the trash, but I would have retrieved my daughter's bento box.

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I agree with taking her daughter's lunchbox back, but throw her food in the trash? You're the adult and shouldn't have stooped to that level, because they didn't put her food in something else quickly enough. Not a good example to ser for your daughter.

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They had plenty of time but chose to argue and defend the thief. Wrong choice on the schools behalf. Someone had to teach the little brat a lesson. Her parents obviously aren't.

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7 months ago
The comment was deleted. Go home guys.

I applaud and appreciate because my daughter was bullied since the 2nd grade and no teacher or principal ever did anything about it no matter how many times I ever went to the school. Now my daughter has be homeschooling for the past several years because she suffers from anxiety and depression thanks to all the bullying she has endured over the years.

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How Dare the teacher and principal enable this little pissant bully
Audrey. They failed the child being bullied. Bravo for the parent who stood up for her child. There are a lot of
Audreys in the world and many bow down to them. Look at Trump

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That's crazy! I would move my child to a different school! What's wrong with the teacher and headteacher? A 6 years old is too young, they should have apologised, moved her food and then called her parents in to explain the situation. Teach the kid that no, she can't not take what's not her simple because she wants it! That's called stealing and she will grow to do that if not disciplined and guilded now.

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Which one of you is the child ? And is this the example you want to set ? However with that being said, I am proud that you found a nonviolent way to teach a lesson to a child that apparently their parents weren't able or didn't care to.

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I Love Your Decision,,I hope You talk to her Parents inperson,,becuz me as a parent wud definitely want to see who is Raising Audrey.. M2TR=Mom to the Rescue.

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7 months ago
OMG Karen, why have you deleted this comment?
7 months ago
This comment came alive and ran away.

"Bento" isn't a brand, as far as I know; it's just a style of lunch box. That said, I haven't the faintest clue why one would cost $50.

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7 months ago
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7 months ago
Nobody. Should. See. This. Comment.

If i am the mother I will let Audrey eat her food first and then tell the teacher and the principal to get back the lunchbox and give it to my daughter after Audrey finish eating and ask the principal to call the attention of her parents and I will personally talk to them. The Principal and the teacher should not tolerate this kind of action. Maybe Audrey or her family had a problem.

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I don't think any age kid should take things from others and I agree with this mother who stool up for her daughter, but I do not think it was right for her to throw away Audrey's food. I get she wanted the lunch box back, but she could have just dumped the food on the desk of the principal.

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No, actually the principal and teacher threw it away by not acknowledging any wrongdoing and having the thief's parents come and address the issue!! And I am sure the school fee her!!

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I loved your reaction! It's crazy to think we must make the Thief feel better? Why do we have to be understanding to the Thief? We need to go back to whooping kids! She would have gotten a good one from my mom!

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first not really the point.. second it was a gift from her aunt…third audrey, the teacher and the principle needed to be taught a lesson about how it’s not right to take someone else’s belongings!

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It was a gift from her Aunt!!! Perhaps she is single and has money to indulge her niece!! Why are you judging what is not your business!! Plus that is not the point!! The child stole it!! The value of the item is not the issue. The important thing is the child is a thief and so are the parents!!!

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7 months ago
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7 months ago
HULK DELETE THIS COMMENT!

Who, in their right mind, buys a 6 year old a $50 lunch box? In any case, I wouldn't have dumped the food in the trash, I would have dumped it on the principals desk.

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I'm on the side of the little girl who had her lunch box stolen and her mom that Audrey kid is going to be a menace for real if her parents keep indulging her like that

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From one mom to another, you were absolutely right. I'm raising my son the way my parents raised me and my siblings. When I was 6 a girl from my class was calling me names adults use and one day I came home crying so my dad who was in the military payed my sister only a few months older than me to deal with it. The next day on the bus she called me an adopted f***ing c**t. She didn't realize my sister was in the seat behind her and as soon as she heard what I was called my sister stood up, grabbed a big chunk of her hair and smashed her head in the window and told her our uncle is a cop and he knows where she lives. She moved to another school district days later. We can't let entitled children become their parents. They need to learn that you don't always get what you want just because you say you want it. GOODONYA MAMA!!!!We must stand up for our babies no matter how old they are!!!!!!!!!

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About 20 years ago my daughter was physically assaulted, in class, by a male bully. The teacher did not intervene or even call for help
I had to leave work to take her to the ER, so I was NOT Happy.
Things got better at the hospital, a friend, former classmate, and deputy sheriff walked in. I began singing the blues and he took notes.
The bully's parents were prosecuted when they refused to take responsibility, he was sent to CPS.
The teacher was fired and lost her license.

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Clearly this Audrey has some issues, so instead of acting like an ADULT when 6 year olds are involved, let's just bring this kid down to be humiliated in front of you and then just to prove to this kid that stealing is wrong, take HER packed lunch and chuck it in the garbage. Feel better? Audrey is 6. Audrey also has parents, and hopefully a mother who isn't over emotional that should have been contacted before you made a mockery of her kid .

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Clearly, NOBODY, including the adults, have addressed Audrey's issues. However, they've clearly been co-signing her very bad behavior. Had those in authority at school been adults and done their jobs this could've, and should've, been avoided. Unfortunately they didn't and Momma Bear rightfully dealt with her thieving in the only way that she could; kudos to her!!!!! In only 6 short years this would result in a criminal charge and possibly a court ordered "vacation" in juvenile detention so maybe the "humiliation" of being called out for theft and having to return the stolen property to the rightful owner will make her think twice before engaging in criminal acts going forward. Imo it's people like you, the teacher and the principal who are responsible for the disgusting amount of kids who lack any respect for common decency, rules and authority because appropriate boundaries and zero repercussions are enforced so they're not being taught the basic skills to be a decent person.

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Clearly the school wasn't going to stand up for the child whose lunch box was stolen. The mother gave the principal and teacher the option of finding another container, guess they should have taken her seriously.

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I agreed right up to the point where you dumped her lunch in the bin. You should have removed it and left it on the table or waited for them to find a bag. What will Audrey do next? You've shown her how to bully big time. Not just a little girl, but her mother and the teachers. Just as disrespectful.

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