11 Moments of Humanity That Prove Wisdom Often Speaks Through Quiet Kindness


Summer changes who you run into. School is out, the roads fill up, and Americans spend more of June through August around people they have never met than at any other point in the year. Beaches, gas stations, waiting rooms, the long line at a travel rental counter. More strangers, more chances at the kind of happiness you cannot plan for.
Most of those encounters amount to nothing, and that is fine; that is how anybody gets through a Tuesday. But every so often one of them turns into something else. A random act of kindness has never needed much: one person paying attention, and a second person who happens to be nearby. Compassion does not need a plan. It needs proximity. Travel puts more of us in the way of somebody else’s generosity than usual, which may be why the summer stories are always the best ones.
I (16M) mowed lawns all summer in Iowa to save for my school supplies. One customer always paid above my asking price, no matter what I said. On my last day, he handed me an envelope and said, “Don’t open this until you get home.” I opened it that night. He’d already cleared it with my mom the week before, so there was no handing it back. He wrote that he mowed lawns for the older folks on his street when he was sixteen, and somebody did this exact thing for him at the end of that summer. Now that he’s retired, he wanted a kid to get the same shot. There was $100 in the envelope and one line at the bottom: “Keep doing good work. Pass it on when you can.”
I had a troubled home life as a young man.
The summer before grade 9, I was basically by myself. I needed to get school supplies, and the closest Walmart was miles away. I tried hitchhiking in the August Florida sun, and it was miserable.
Finally, an older man in an old, busted-up sedan offered me a lift. He didn’t speak much English, but he did know “Walmart.” He got me there and tried to give me a couple bucks, which I was too proud to take.
Good dude.
I was working in jewelry at a retail store today and I was telling a customer about a beautiful carved stone cat necklace. I explained/joked about how it can be tough working retail cause you always spot things you’d love to get but can’t (the cat necklace was $70). (Wasn’t meant to be sad or anything, just lighthearted, relatable conversation). We both talked about our love of cats, etc. Anyways, she ended up finishing her purchase and left the store. About 30 minutes later, she and a man (I assume her husband) came back to the jewelry counter holding something small out to me.
She explained how she couldn’t afford to get the necklace for me, so she got this instead. It was a little lucky cat figurine. After they left, my coworker asked if I knew them and I explained that they were simply kind strangers.
I have never been so happy in my workplace. It was such a genuine random act of kindness from a stranger, and I wish nothing but good karma and beyond for this woman. I didn’t even learn her name, but every time I see that cat figure (which now sits on my dresser beside other cat figures I own), I’ll remember that kindness does not go unnoticed. There is still good in this world.
A security guard named Mike saw me pulled over with smoke billowing out of my car’s hood, he gave me a free ride all the way to my neighborhood (I wasn’t that trusting) in the opposite direction of his place free of charge, this was middle of the summer in Arizona at like 5 in the afternoon going from Thunderbird to Gilbert, which would average an hour or two because of traffic. Great guy, still have his number!
Three months behind on rent, my husband and I put everything out for a yard sale. We’ve lived on the same street in Indiana for eleven years. The kids’ bikes, our wedding dishes, even the crib my grandparents gave us. Everything. By afternoon the neighbors had bought it all, maybe ten things left over, I don’t even know, because we were selling really good stuff. I cried when I saw it all go.
That night I woke up to noise outside. My heart was racing. It’s a quiet neighborhood, that never happens. I grabbed my husband, already had 911 dialed. He opened the door. My phone nearly hit the floor when I saw our whole street standing on our lawn in the dark, putting every last thing back. Bikes against the porch. Two guys I’d just been saying hello to that afternoon were hauling the crib up the driveway, arguing about which end went first. It was a movie moment, a random act of kindness the size of a whole street.
Turns out my neighbor Denise had overheard me on the phone with my landlord when she came over for coffee. She put it together after the yard sale. She told everyone, and while they were figuring out how they could help, they came up with this, plus a small fundraiser they’d pulled together.
I don’t think I’ve ever felt happiness like that. It’s the second most emotional thing that’s ever happened to me, after giving birth.
I was visiting friends in a town in the Midwest with my kids, and we went to an ice cream shop. My oldest was quite excited, running around, being silly while we sat outside. There was a middle-aged couple sitting out there too, so I kept asking her to come sit by me and be quiet (so she wouldn’t bother them).
As we got up to leave, the couple came over and asked if they could give my daughter a gift card for the shop. I was speechless for a moment but said, “Of course, that’s so kind of you.”
“We lost a daughter years ago who looked so much like her,” they said. “Make sure she gets more ice cream,” and they left. I cried for a bit after that.
Last August, I loaded some camping gear onto the back of my bicycle and spent the better part of the next seven months riding from my home in Wisconsin to Seattle and down the Pacific coast. Along the way, I discovered a website which helps people like me —specifically traveling by bicycle— to find locals who are willing to host us in their homes for a night. These people were, without fail, the kindest, most generous, and selfless people I’ve ever met. They would welcome a stranger into their home, provide me a warm bed, a hot shower, and very often share their dinner with me, and all they would ask in return is to hear a few stories of my travels, maybe sign a guest book. If somebody shared their meals with me on top of everything else, I figured the last I could do to repay them is offer to do the dishes, right? But more often than not, my offer would be met with a response to the effect of “you must be exhausted after such a long day on the bike, of course I’m not going to make you do the dishes!” It was truly a humbling experience. Contrary to what many people want me to believe, I’ve always believed that the world we share is a kind one, and we generally all want the best for one another. My travels by bicycle have reinforced that belief time and time again, and I very much look forward to paying it forward when I’m able to host others.
My dad and I were driving to our vacation spot with two cat carriers in the backseat. Someone on the highway stopped for no reason and caused a chain reaction. We were the third car in the line. Everyone was fine, but our car’s hood was completely smashed in, and it wasn’t drivable. We managed to limp it off the highway to a Home Depot and waited there for AAA.
This was in the middle of the Jersey summer, and AAA said it would be at least a few hours. I was getting very worried about the cats. The Home Depot let me bring them inside, so I ended up sitting in the front of the store with a double stack of cat carriers. I must have looked really pathetic because a couple with a teenage son stopped to ask if I was okay.
Once they heard we were stranded, they took complete charge. They got us food and drove us and the cats to the local airport to rent a car. We were all crammed into their tiny car with big, bulky carriers on our laps. They were so unbelievably kind and refused to leave until we had our rental car.
Edited to add: This is why you should always secure your pet carriers in place with seat belts and get the most secure ones you can afford. The cats came through the whole experience just fine, but it could have been much worse if they hadn’t been strapped down.
Last summer I was 16 and we were in Orlando, Florida on vacation. We went to Chili’s and you could tell our waitress wasn’t having a good day. Later she brought over the food for the table next to ours, and I don’t know what happened, but she dropped the tray and spilled it all over the floor. She started crying and walked away while other staff came over to clean up and another table tried to make her feel better. She didn’t come back to work until she’d pulled herself together, which was around when we were leaving.
The whole time I felt awful for her, because she looked like a young adult. I didn’t say a word, but on the way out I opened my phone case and took out all my emergency money. It was only about $15, but I went to the hostess and asked her to give it to the waitress. I told her I was hoping to get a job soon, and that everyone has bad days, and that just the thought of something like this would make me happy. I never met the waitress. I hope she’s okay and that it made her day a little better.
It wasn’t anything crazy, but my wife, my son (2 years old), and I went to Disneyland for a week and went to some of the local beaches around Orlando.
Cocoa Beach, to be exact. The weather was hot and very humid. We planned on renting an umbrella to block the demonic sun Florida was offering that day, but they didn’t accept Apple Pay, and I didn’t bring a wallet out because I didn’t want to lose it.
The kind couple behind us paid for our umbrella without hesitation and didn’t want anything in return.
Thanks, random Florida guy!
Who was the stranger whose compassion you never got to thank properly?
Generosity that expects a return is a transaction. Compassion is what is left when you take the transaction out.
It costs somebody twenty minutes, or forty dollars, or a small amount of generosity they had not planned on spending, and then they go home and forget about it by Tuesday. The person on the other side does not forget. They carry it for years, sometimes decades, and they tell it to people who were not there. That is a strange and lopsided arithmetic, and it is the only kind of kindness that really counts. The happiness ends up almost entirely with whoever needed it most.
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