Post-birth sorrow affects more people than we typically understand. Studies show that approximately 85% of new mothers face it. Gretchen, a first-time mother, is finding it difficult to adjust to motherhood, leading her to ask for some solitude from her family. Her situation took a turn for the worse when her in-laws appeared without warning to meet the newborn. She contacted us for advice.
Yes you over reacted. Invite you own mother to move in, and tell your husbands mother that only family can come for now? Rude and selfish. Women have been having babies since the beginning of time, and suddenly this generation has made it the most undesirable job you can have. Spoiled, selfindulgent and selfish. Grow the f up.
Hello, Gretchen! Thank you for trusting us with your story. Here are some suggestions that might help you navigate this delicate situation.
It’s crucial to set boundaries with your partner and in-laws. Let them know that while you appreciate their excitement about the baby, you need time to adjust and would prefer visits to be planned in advance. Explain that unexpected visits disrupt your routine and heighten stress, which can impact both your well-being and the baby’s health.
Open communication will help prevent misunderstandings and ensure everyone respects your need for space during this vulnerable time.
Looking after a newborn is both physically and emotionally demanding. Don’t be afraid to lean on your support system for help. Whether it’s your partner, relatives, or close friends, delegate tasks and ask for assistance with chores or baby duties when possible.
Having a strong support network can ease some of the pressure, allowing you to take breaks and recharge.
Prioritize self-care as you manage the demands of motherhood. It’s easy to forget your own needs while caring for a newborn, but taking time for yourself is crucial for your emotional and mental well-being.
Find moments in your day to engage in activities that bring you joy and calm, whether it’s soaking in a relaxing bath, reading a book, or enjoying a quiet cup of tea.
The situation with your husband and his family showing up uninvited highlights a breakdown in communication and a disregard for your boundaries. It might be helpful to consider couples counseling to address any underlying issues and improve communication in your relationship.
A trained therapist can guide both of you through this challenging transition into parenthood, fostering better understanding and mutual support.
Sarah, another young woman, reached out to us for guidance. Her husband has expressed an interest in adopting his young niece, but Sarah feels uncertain about the idea, as she hopes to start their own family together. Read her full story here.
