My Boyfriend Lost His Temper When He Found Out I’m a Landlord of the Building We Live In

year ago

Sometimes even one simple revelation can flip everything on its head in a relationship. In this story, everything was fine, but, suddenly, one thing changed the situation. The reader’s boyfriend discovered that she is not just his flatmate but also the landlord of the very building they call home.

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barbara Nivens

month ago

Time to dump the BF. You're crazy even considering this. He's showing you who and what he is. He's abusing you.

Cate Adlam

2 months ago

Is your boyfriend going to pay for your loss of income, seriously kick the boyfriend out, he will use you and you will have nothing.

Owlisen

3 months ago

Don't do it!!!
I would have told him to f*ck all the way off!!!
This is a business transaction for you, not some charity.
If his brother would move in, he should pay just like any one else.
I mean, does he think he is entitled to have some of your money as well?!?!?
No, run as fast as you can!!!

Ilonka Wimmer-Ljungqvist

3 months ago

No No No, you will never get rid of his brother.He will probably destroy the apartment and you will actually lose an income.
Just having your boyfriend yell at you is a red flag. Would never tolerate this.
What will be the next thing? that he wants you to write him as co-owner? and before you know it you will be kicked out of your own house...
Do you really want it that way? Maybe it's time for you to reevaluate your relationship. Your boyfriend has no right whatsoever to make demands or yell at you, etc. If you now decide to get married, make sure you have a watertight prenuptial agreement where it says that he has no right to what you own such as real estate and money if you separate. Make sure to have separate accounts with no right to withdraw anything.

Run!!!

Run Forest Run!

Are you CRAZY??? 5 MONTHS!!! ?? No way!! He will use you his brother will NEVER pay you!! Also 5 months and your thinking of his family as "future" family...way too fast. Dude is showing you who he is listen VERY closely!!

Melanie Freiden

5 months ago

You're only dating for 5 months and he's acting this entitled? Why are you even considering this? If his brother moves in for free you will never get him out! How desperate are you to stay with someone, again only 5 months, that you let him treat you this way? If the tables were turned would he let a family member of yours live indefinitely for free?

Brigitte Balg Aronhime

7 months ago

sounds like you need to overthink the boyfriend situation...he should find his own living quarter along with his brother! If he treats you like he does now imagine how he will treat you when you married!

Ronnie

11 months ago

Are you sure you want to consider marrying someone who acts like this? And how fair is this to the renter? And think of all that money you lose. Sounds like you might need a prenup too if you marry him.

Anna Tribe

8 months ago

Ronnie

Yeah massive red flags here. Soon he will expect her to put his name on the deed to the house and she wouldn't be able to kick him or his brother out without a long drawn out court battle. I'd say no thanks and kick the boyfriend to the curb.

Darrell Feit

7 months ago

Ronnie

The ridiculous demand will Not be his last---Run--get a new boyfriend... Unfortunately I may have been married to his twin-act alike sister--ugh.

Thank you for sharing your situation with us and reaching out. We’ve got some valuable tips that could be the perfect solution for you!

Reconsider this relationship.

Ed Anderson

year ago

WOW

He never offered you to pay half of the rent, and he wasn’t “ashamed” of living with you rent-free. Apparently, he knew you were paying the entire rent. This is a big red flag that you shouldn’t ignore. His behavior changed drastically when he found out you owned the place. Besides, he has the audacity to criticize you and demand that his brother should live with you.

Stand your ground and don’t bend.

It’s better not to let his brother live in your place. Instead, you can evict your boyfriend and break up. He uses your kindness, and you shouldn’t be get used or spoken to like that in your own home. There’s no way you should “do good” in this situation. Otherwise, your own home will turn into a nightmare.

Live separately.

You’ve been together only for 5 months, and you already moved in together. You might have rushed things a little bit. You both still don’t know each other that well to cohabit. It’s better to talk things through, meet his parents and be ready to work on some minor disagreements without drama.

Moving in together is an important step in any relationship. Sometimes even knowing someone for a year doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be living peacefully together.

Have a third party around if you break up.

Breaking up with your boyfriend might be quite challenging bearing in mind that you’ll also have to evict him. If you’re going to have such a talk, make sure there’s someone else around. Some people can surprise you when you break up. In some cases, it can even lead to violence.

Even if you don’t think he’s capable of that, have someone in the house with you anyway, just in case. He might not become physically violent, but manipulative. You might want to have a male relative or friend around in case your boyfriend reacts too negatively and starts damaging your property.

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