My dad came home after years away and the first thing he asked was whether his old mug was still in the kitchen. It was. He stood there holding it for a minute and started crying. I had never seen my dad cry before.
10 Garden Habits That Teach Us Composting and Landscaping Always Lead Kind Hearts to Happiness

35 pounds of wild blackberries. 4 cucumber plants that apparently got out of hand fast. A neighbor who insists a little garden benign neglect is the whole secret. Scroll through any gardening forum for 5 minutes and you’ll notice the same pattern: nobody agrees on the method, but almost everyone agrees on the payoff.
A study in Discover Public Health backs that up directly, finding that gardening tasks build real patience, hope, and empathy over time, especially when a plant looks like it’s failing and comes back anyway. Separate peer-reviewed research on PMC found that people who garden regularly report meaningfully higher resilience and optimism than people who don’t touch a trowel at all.
These 10 real habits, straight from backyard gardeners, prove composting, landscaping, and a little stubborn patience still grow more than just vegetables.
“The heat has really taken a toll on the garden but we’re still getting some lovely things, the tomatoes are in full swing now.”
- My dad made one mistake at 17 and paid for it for 22 years. So when he got out after so many years of missing my childhood, I gave him a home and a garden to tend. One night I heard him on the phone, “She’s a fool to think I’ve changed.” I went pale when he said, “I want to burn part of her garden before she wakes up and sees what the blight did.”
I just stood there in the hallway for a second, heart going, trying to figure out what I’d walked into. Turned out “she” wasn’t me. It was his sister, my aunt, the one who cut him off over two decades ago and never really let go of who he used to be. He wasn’t being mean saying that about her, not really. More like someone who’s given up trying to change somebody’s mind and just says it flat now.
The garden was mine, the one I’d handed him the week he moved in. He’d found blight on a row of tomatoes a couple days before, and if you don’t pull that stuff fast and burn it, it just spreads through the whole bed. He hadn’t told me yet. Didn’t want me thinking he couldn’t be trusted with something small, not after everything.
He walked in a few minutes later, saw my face, figured I’d heard him talking bad about me. I told him what I actually heard. He sat down at the table and just told me the whole thing, blight included, and said he’d rather quietly fix it than have me think one bad season meant he ruins whatever he touches.
We pulled the infected plants that weekend, burned them off away from everything else, replanted a month later. He still gets up every morning and goes out there. 22 years since the mistake. These days the hard part isn’t staying changed. It’s getting the people who knew him before to actually believe it.
I believe people don't change. I waited for my husband for years, and when he got out, he treated me very badly. I divorced him, of course, but it wasn't easy. Your dad sounds like a good man, but just know that people RARELY change..
i think people do change
Just because yours was a total AH doesn’t mean they all are.
I know you speak from experience, but your wrong; for your own sake you have give them the chance (as you did), otherwise you'll never know whether they have or not. That chance will be redeeming to you both if successful; if not, there's a fillip attached for your effort. It's hard I know, but life is made up of both successes and failures, for all of us.
Your ex was only 1bad seed, that's all. There are wonderful endings, believe me. Sorry for your loss.
Awesome ...a great man now...his sister is an ah,one-day she definitely will pay
People can change.
A person I've known for years was in to drugs.
Went to prison 2013 and that was the last time.
Hes sober got his own business a beautiful lady and
His life is completely different. He's a true success story..given
The incentive People can change if they want to.
My biological father never changed.
He's still a nasty horrible person. Who'd beat any woman
He has a relationship with.
Thats why I refuse any contact.
If people want to change they will.
But they need to want to..
Your dad obviously wants to change.
And has you to help him. Good for him.
🫶🏼
Do you think people deserve a second chance after making a serious mistake?
When my father came back into our lives, he kept asking if he was staying too long. Even when we told him to stay for dinner, he’d still be looking at the clock. It took him months to stop acting like he was a guest in his own family.
Hi Dean! That really says a lot ❤️ After being away for so long, it must have been hard for him to believe he was truly welcome again. I hope he eventually stopped looking at the clock and started feeling at home ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I used to take kids in on house arrest. One particular girl was very difficult and getting her after school while I was working wasn't easy. I said to her I wish I could just give you a house key. She looked at me and said after what I did? I genuinely trusted her and said you aren't what you did. Not theft BTW. She changed almost over night. Her grades improved, she softened and the lawyer kept stalling her court date because she was doing so much better. It's how we treat each other that's so important
“I have a habit of buying close out bulbs and planting on Thanksgiving.”
- My neighbor drops her coffee grounds in my compost bin every morning on her walk, been doing it for two years now, never asks, never mentions it. My tomatoes have never grown better.
A peer-reviewed study published in Horticulturae found that composted coffee grounds genuinely improve soil structure and water retention once fully broken down. Turns out composting habits spread faster than gossip on this street.
- I started composting my food scraps just to feel less guilty about waste. A year and a half in, my garden’s producing more than I can eat most seasons. Now half the neighborhood gets zucchini whether they ask for it or not.
“I do absolutely nothing, and it gifts me with beautiful, wonderfully grown fruit every year.”

The land we live on has been in my husband's family since the 1940's. There are mulberry trees, muscadines, persimmons, blackberries, strawberries, walnuts and plums and most grow wild. There are also herbs that grow naturally, about 15 different ones. Squirrels, rabbits, raccoons, opossums, birds,chipmunks, mice,bats and others live there. They usually eat everything but most of it was there before we moved here so I guess that's fair..we got some fat critters around here,lol.
We WILL have to trim it way back though, as it’s certainly grown super out of control this summer. But it’s given me so many incredible blackberries, I’m very thankful.
“My grapes are ready. I usually spray with copper sulphate to prevent disease. I got a wite fence to keep boars away.”
- My dad taught me one rule about landscaping: never rip out a plant you don’t understand yet. Took me years to get why. A peer-reviewed study published in Trends in Plant Science explains that perennial plants naturally cease visible growth and enter dormancy on a seasonal cycle, appearing lifeless while their root systems stay very much alive underground. Live a century and learn a century, as they say.
“This is all grown right in my backyard by myself, all from seed and bulb and tuber. I’ve ripped up grass and lawn for beds, amended soil, added drip lines and a fertilizer tank.”
“Four cucumber plants may have been too many.”

Nope make pickles. I canned enough last year to last us 2 years!
What garden habit has taught you the most, whether it’s composting, landscaping, or something you advise every season?
The best bug deterent is Dawn dish soap in a spray bottle . Spray on the leaves before they flower to prevent bug infestation
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