Public transportation can be stressful, especially for people with disabilities or health conditions. Crowded buses and misunderstandings often lead to awkward or humiliating situations, leaving passengers feeling judged or forced to prove their needs in front of strangers.
Hey Bright Side!
So, the other day, something happened on the bus that honestly left me feeling humiliated. It was packed, and I was lucky enough to snag a seat squeezed between a school kid and some random guy. Then a pregnant woman got on. She looked around, saw me sitting, and straight-up went, “Can’t you see I need that seat more than you?”
I froze for a second because... yeah, I get it. But I also have a disability, and standing is really tough for me, so I politely refused. She just stared at me, making comments like I was lying.
To make matters worse, a woman started filming when I tried to explain my situation, and I felt my face burn as I had to pull out my health certificate just to prove I wasn’t making it up. The bus went silent, and all I could feel was this crushing embarrassment.
Even now, just thinking about having to sit on a crowded bus makes me anxious. Like... why do people immediately assume the worst and force you to share personal info just to be believed? Has anyone else been in a situation like this? How do you handle people who refuse to understand before judging?
Thank you in advance,
Daisy.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us, Daisy! We really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, it’s not easy to open up about experiences like this. We’ve also tried to gather some pieces of advice that might help others facing similar situations.
Remind everyone next time that just because the disability isn't visible that it doesn't exist. It does. Explain that standing is very much a hardship for you and that people like you deserve just as much consideration as those who are either pregnant or have a disability that's visible. Then just ignore them. Hold your head high. You've done nothing wrong. By standing up for yourself you're standing up for people like me who also have disabilities that aren't visible. Thank you.
Listen, we know it feels terrifying to tell someone, “No, I can’t do that,” especially in public. But your health and boundaries matter more than avoiding a scene. Next time, take a deep breath, hold your ground, and remind yourself, you don’t owe anyone an explanation unless you want to give it.
Feeling humiliated stings, no doubt. But here’s the thing, everyone forgets most of what happens in public faster than you think. Own it: “Yeah, that happened, it sucked, but I survived.” Laugh at it later if you can. It takes the power away from the people trying to shame you.
People often react badly because they’re rushed or panicked. Have a simple line ready, something short like, “I can’t stand for long because of a medical condition.” No need to explain your life story; just a quick, calm answer can defuse a lot of judgment.
Even in uncomfortable or embarrassing situations, standing up for yourself is important. With understanding and support, people can navigate these moments with confidence and compassion.
