I Had to Charge One of My Wedding Guests for Bringing an Unexpected Plus Two
Incurring additional costs in your planned wedding scares many couples. It is usually a nightmare when one of your colleagues ruins the wedding plan by bringing two unexpected guests to the venue. How should couples handle such situations? Should they forget about it and pay the additional cost, or request their colleagues to pay for it?
One of our loyal Bright Side readers experienced this turn of events during her wedding. Here is what she shared with us.
Dear Purity, you must be feeling awful due to the turn of events. Receive lots of hugs from us, and we advise you to remain calm during this period. We are here to give you a hand during this challenging period. Bright Side gathered some ideas that may help you solve this problem, and here’s what we think.
- Expect an apology. It is crucial to implement morals in our communities. The lady ruined the newlywed’s expenses, which was wrong. She should first apologize to you; forgiveness is key to solving problems in our society.
- Have a face-to-face conversation with her. Sending a person a message is not an effective form of communication. How about you do this: save a date with her and have a face-to-face conversation regarding the problem. It will help you know where she stands, and from there, you can work with what you have to solve the problem.
- Divide the bill. It was a wedding, people are supposed to have a good time with people from all walks of life. How about you consider her situation. If it were you, what could you have done? Besides, she showed up at your wedding, meaning she values and respects you. You can decide to divide the additional cost between you and her as a sign that you have empathy and logic for her situation.
- Use her wedding gift or cash to pay the incurred additional cost. Many guests typically give the newlyweds gifts and money. How about you use her present to pay the extra cost since she is the cause of the problem.
- Try to forget about it and be open. People hold different values, thus causing many conflicts in society, so you should not spend too much time and energy seeking an apology or financial assistance from her. Be open-minded; she may help you or bother you to the point you will just get fed up with the issue.
We feel sorry for you, and we hope the recommended advice will help you find the best solution to your problem. In the meantime, cheer up and congratulations on your new life chapter.
What would you have done if you were in this situation? Would you forgive, split the bill, or seek maximum compensation?