16 Couples Shared Petty Things That Save Their Marriage in a Long Run

Relationships, especially marriage, are not only about unicorns and wonderful things, but also about stormy weather, and these are important too. But we all know that following darker moments, there will be a beautiful rainbow on the horizon. After a quarrel, we notice the little things about our spouses, and we learn to love and appreciate their flaws every day.

At Bright Side, we collected some tips from people on how to make a married life filled with true love and care last longer.

• My partner and I don’t let things fester. We’ll talk about the issue and know it’s important for both of us to take ownership of the parts we play. We apologize, we say sorry, and we try to show our love often to connect when life makes things hectic. © Throwawaytohideaway2 / Reddit

• Go to bed together at the same time as much as possible. That together time at bedtime where you both catch up on each other’s day is invaluable. © Odd-Tangelo7047 / Reddit

• I asked my grandma if someone always has more weight and responsibilities on their shoulders, and she said yes, but “that’s okay. Sometimes it’ll be on you, but then you have your partner to shift it to. And you do that forever. Sometimes it’s you, sometimes it’s them. But the weight will always be on one of you, and if you can share it-things will be just fine.” Then she talked about how much she still loves granddad and how cute he is. © lu***plant / Reddit

• Shared Google Keep lists on each other’s phones have been huge. Grocery lists, task lists, hardware store lists. You think of something, you put it on the list. © armspawn / Reddit

• The next big thing after getting a king bed is to get separate blankets. There is no need to play tug of war every night. © nomnommish / Reddit

• A king-size bed is a good start. Try individual comforters next. And, the best marriage advice of all: go to bed angry. Don’t keep fighting through the night, as you both get more irrational. Most of the time, you both wake up and say, “well, that argument was silly.” © ultrahello / Reddit

• Almost 10 years of marriage here, and a happy one at that. On my wedding day, my youth pastor, who I grew up with and who was officiating our wedding, pulled me aside and gave me the best advice I’ve ever received. “You can either be right, or you can be happy. You will never get to be both again.” © Negativedge_ / Reddit

• My dad always said never, ever, under any circumstances should you call your partner something mean, negative, or cuss at them. It doesn’t matter how mad you are at each other, it should never cross that line. That can wound a relationship forever, and you can never take it back. © mrs_boomhauer / Reddit

• The advice I’ve given people is this: if you can go grocery shopping with your person and have the best time ever, you have yourself a keeper. It’s all about making the best of the mundane things, because, after years of being together, life becomes predictable. You’ll need to keep the spice going, regardless of what you’re doing. © LemonFizzy0000 / Reddit

• There are certain words, a certain tone of voice, etc. that you can use on your children, a friend, a subordinate, or even your boss, but which you just shouldn’t use on your spouse. © Traditional_Bell7883 / Reddit

Do you have any secrets or advice for long-term relationships? Have you tried any of these suggestions? Did it work? Tell us in the comments.