A Woman Made Her Husband Apologize to Her Publicly After He Accused Her of Stealing

One of the most hurtful things someone can do to you is accusing you of something you didn’t do, and even more so, not believing you when you tell them that you are 100% innocent. We’ve all felt that way at some point in our lives, but that feeling of hurt is even bigger when the person accusing you is your partner. Having the one person you’ve chosen to trust with your life mistrusting you can be unbearable to many people.

A reader of Bright Side recently experienced the same issue with her husband and turned to us for some useful advice.

We at Bright Side have had a few similar experiences with false accusations, and we’d like to offer some advice to you.

Dear Amelia,

Thank you so much for reaching out to ask for our opinion and advice on this matter. Having someone not only falsely accusing you of something but also mistrust you can be very frustrating. And in this case, your husband insinuated heavily that you might have stolen that ring. He might have not flat-out accused you, but the moment he asked you if you did it made it clear that he thought you were capable of that action.

• You need to talk about trust. You and your husband have been together for 1.5 years, and him accusing you of stealing might mean that he doesn’t trust you. When we trust someone, we can’t even fathom the thought of them being able to do something of that sort. So you need to sit down with him and ask him if he has trust issues. Maybe you’ve noticed this problem already in other aspects of your relationship.
• It was right of you to forgive him if you love him. People make mistakes every single day, and when they give a genuine apology, you can choose to forgive them. You got rid of all the anger and frustration that you must have had in you. And this means that you helped your body and overall health get rid of such a tremendous burden.

• You need to dig deeper and see whether you have really forgiven him. You know that you haven’t let go of something when you seek revenge or payback. And you demanding that he apologize in front of his whole family is a form of revenge. So, now that he has done that as well, do you still feel pain from the whole situation, or have you really moved on?
• You need to explain to him that he can’t be sharing everything with your friends. This is a personal matter that should be taken care of privately and not be analyzed with even the closest of friends. Your humiliation and frustration must have gotten even bigger after he made his accusations public. If this is the first time he’s done something like this, you were right to forgive him.
• If talking about your personal matters with others is something he does regularly, then things are more serious. Of course, we all share personal things with our friends, but some issues should stay between the people involved. That’s because our friends can often influence us to say and do things that we wouldn’t normally decide for ourselves. If that is the case with your husband, you should have a deep and long conversation about oversharing.

What else would you say to Amelia about her problem? Have you ever faced a similar issue, and if so, how did you handle it? Was it resolved with talking or did things go worse than expected?