I Refused to Cook All Three Meals of the Day to My Husband, and His Reaction Shocked Me

Many women struggle with the expectation to cook for their husbands every day, especially if they have other responsibilities or preferences. But what happens when a woman decides to stop cooking all three meals of the day for her husband and let him fend for himself? That’s what one Reddit user did, and she shared her story on the site. In this article, we’ll tell you what she did, why she did it, and how her husband reacted. You might be surprised by the outcome.

The author shared, "I have three kids and am currently pregnant with my fourth. I left work to take care of our kids. My husband thinks that because I don’t work outside the house, it’s my responsibility to take care of ALL duties related to the house and the kids. You name it — cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, homework, school activities, drop-offs, etc.

On top of everything I do, he also expects me to make all of his meals — breakfast, lunch and dinner. I have been so tired recently from entertaining the kids all day during summer vacation and having difficulty with my pregnancy. He told me, “Life’s tough. This is your job,” and had no sympathy for me. He thinks I have it easy because I “don’t work.”

The last two nights, I’ve refused to make him dinner, and he’s acting like I’m a useless ‘horrible’ wife. Why can’t he stop at the store after work and pick himself something up? Or look at what we have in the fridge and make something? When he’s hungry, he’ll constantly say, “I’m starving, I’m so hungry,” being passive-aggressive to let me know he wants me to make him something. I’m completely undervalued and unappreciated. Am I doing the wrong thing by putting my foot down and refusing to wait on him hand and foot?"

The woman received a lot of supporting comments. Here are some of them:

• Unless your husband is working 16 hours a day, he had better start stepping up. You’re doing the work of babysitter, cook, cleaner, and personal shopper. How many jobs is he doing? sugarpopspete / reddit
• Seriously! I’m a stay-at-home mom, too, and even when my husband works 14-hour days, he makes his own breakfast. Homemaker13 / Reddit
• I don’t care if he is working 16-hour days...he can make his own food and help with the kids. Her job never ends. PlaidyLady / Reddit

Sharing home responsibilities can sometimes become an uphill task for a couple. We hope this couple manages to find their way to peace. Meanwhile, have a look at the article with funny illustrations about how hard the life of a pregnant woman can be.