I Stopped Paying "Child Support" for My Grandson After His Stepdad Tried to Erase My Late Son’s Memory

Imagine losing your child, but carrying his legacy through his own son—supporting him financially, being there in every way you can. But life moves forward, and sometimes, it moves in ways you never saw coming.

People were all on her side.

• If Allen wants to be the dad, he can be the dad. And the breadwinner. © Infamous-Wasabi-9007 / Reddit
• If the stepdad adopted the child, your son would also a not have to pay child support any longer if alive. Yes, you were a bit rude, but it's entitled of her to assume you would continue to pay child support. Legally, you have been gifting her for the kid's whole life. She wants to erase your son, she gets no money from you. © Lady_Ellie119 / Reddit
• I’m sorry, but it really sounds like they just want your money and don’t value your relationship to your grandson. You’ve already done more than most would, too. © lil_potato_boi / Reddit
• I would have had a slightly different response. I would have told them, of course, we'll keep putting aside money for Dave Jr, but now that it is a two-parent household, the money we pay is going into a college or trust for him so that his future is secure, and it will be in my or my husband's name. © Unknown author / Reddit

• You did more than most would have done, considering the extremely sad circumstances. I'm sorry for your loss. © Unknown author / Reddit
• Lying about his dad is likely to be so much more problematic than just being honest from the get-go. This is the kind of thing kids are super traumatized by. You don't owe them anything, and it's totally unreasonable for them to expect you to continue your kindness after pulling this stunt. © ShmamBo88 / Reddit
• If they were receiving survivors'/child’s benefits from social security or receiving child support from a parent, those benefits would terminate if the child was legally adopted by his stepfather. Not telling him about his dad until he’s old enough is a bad move for you, your late son, and the child. It can be traumatizing for a child when they find out the truth about their parentage after being misled or lied to. ©_cheesynoodles / Reddit

• Allen wants to take responsibility for the kid? He takes responsibility for the kid. Not checks from you should be expected in that case. © BlacksmithMotor2580 / Reddit
• I was sympathetic until she wanted to make you lie about your relationship to your grandchild. © FireballisMyFriend / Reddit
• So sorry for the loss of your son, especially at that young of an age. I would look into if you have any grandparents' rights so that you could have a relationship with your grandchild. You don't have to pay her a dime.
  If you want to, you could always leave him a portion in a trust. I can understand her moving forward in life, but unless the child's father was toxic, I think changing his name is terrible. © danidoescare / Reddit

Becoming a grandmother is usually a role filled with love, excitement, and cherished moments—but it apparently comes with an hourly rate for this woman.