When it comes to group dinners, it should always be separate checks, unless everyone ordered the same thing. That avoids the unfairness of people having to pay more for what they got. In Jessy’s story, it gets worse. She pays the entire bill every time.
Dear Bright Side,
Whenever we went out for dinner, my friends always “forgot” their wallets, so I ended up paying. They always had excuses, like rent or urgent bills, and reminded me I was well-off anyway. Yesterday, everything got even worse. They asked me to cover a very expensive bill worth almost $1,000.
I smiled and agreed. Then I said, “But since we’re keeping tabs, here’s what you guys still owe me.” Imagine their shock when I pulled out a list I’d been keeping for months and read it out loud, name by name, while people turned to look at us. After that, I added that they can even pay in installments.
They were obviously embarrassed. The next day, they texted me saying how “cheap” I was for keeping tabs on them and that they’re not paying me back. Now, I don’t know if I was too harsh with them. Should I just forget it?
Sincerely,
Jessy
I can't believe 'friends' would do that to you. Just because you have money doesn't mean you carry everyone else. Hell no. That's not friendship that's just using someone. And keeping tab, well done as realistically that behaviour wouldn't have stopped and seriously, they are angry at you? Please...
Hello Jessy,
Thank you for reaching out. You’re understandably fed up with your friends. They’re clearly using you for your wealth. Trying to guilt-trip you by saying you are “cheap” must’ve been hurtful. These people are not your real friends. Real friends wouldn’t ask for your money consistently and not even offer to pay you back.
Your response was confident and made sense. If they refuse to pay you back, then you don’t need to entertain them any longer. You can find better friends who understand your worth and won’t use you for your money. In the end, leaving them be is the best choice you can make.
We hope Jessy can find friends who value her for her lovely personality, rather than her net worth. Unfortunately, like Jessy’s old friends, many people have the wrong idea about friendship. Just check out these stories of people who have a twisted understanding of what it means to be there for each other.
They are not and have never been your friends. You are paying for them to hang out with you. If they have rent due and other bills that they need to pay WHY THE FUCK ARE THEY GOING OUT TO EAT? Oh yeah, because YOU WERE PAYING! Just because you have money does NOT ENTITLE THEM TO IT. The being cheap comment is hysterical. There are plenty of people who speak up if they don't have enough money to go out, they aren't expecting anyone else to cover for them just because they have money. Get rid of the users and losers and next time you go out with ANYBODY tell them SEPARATE CHECKS BEFORE YOU GO OUT. Lost or forgotten wallet? Make sure that you ask them if they have it with them before you leave and again before you go in to the restaurant. You are better than being used.
Sadly there are many people who don't know the value of having a REAL friend...
