Why Having No Friends Can Sometimes Be Good for You, According to Science
It’s a well-known fact that friends are important for our happiness. But recent research suggests that being unsocial is not something we should worry about because spending more time alone actually brings more benefits than we think.
We at Bright Side believe that having no friends is better than having toxic ones and that spending time alone is crucial for our well-being. We also prepared a bonus for you, so don’t miss it at the end of the article.
Spending time alone can boost your creativity.
Constantly interacting with someone can distract your thoughts and hinder your attempts to brainstorm new ideas. On the other hand, alone time allows your creativity to flourish and boosts your imagination. It helps you tune out background noise and makes you more aware of your own thoughts.
It helps you see things differently.
Spending time with other people can bring out your different personality traits. And although mirroring someone’s behavior can help you bond with your friends, it can somewhat alter your self-awareness.
Sometimes, in order to make your friends feel more comfortable, you might forget to think or care about your own needs and feelings. In these moments, it will be harder for you to stay fully present in a given moment which can influence you to see things from a different perspective.
Having fewer or no friends may sometimes allow you to be more in tune with yourself and to experience things as you truly see them.
Forcing a friendship won’t benefit you at all.
Feeling pressured to make friends with people you don’t have much in common with, and who don’t care about your needs and interests, can make you anxious. Forced socializing means that you lose valuable time to spend alone with yourself, and it can leave you with a bad feeling at the end of the day.
Having a well-developed sense of self helps us make better choices in life.
Not spending quality “me time” often can make it tough to know exactly what you want in life. And thus, carried by other people and circumstances, you may end up struggling to make your own or any choice at all.
BONUS: One of the reasons Taylor Swift is a popular singer today is because she didn’t have friends when she was in school.
In an interview, Taylor revealed: “I remember when I was in school, the whole reason I started writing songs was because I was alone a lot of the time. I’d sit there in school and I’d be hearing people like, ’Oh my god, this party that we’re going to is gonna be so awesome on Friday. Everyone’s invited except for [Taylor].’ And I just wouldn’t be invited to stuff, and I’d sit there and be like ‘It’s okay because I can write a song about this later.’”
Do you agree that we shouldn’t maintain friendships at all costs? Would you prefer to be alone if you knew it would help you in the long run?