Why Do Married Couples in Japan Sleep Separately

Curiosities
3 years ago

Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.

We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.

They have different sleep schedules.

The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.

Babies sleep with their mothers.

Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.

For them, sleeping separately means peace.

While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.

Couples have a history of sleeping separately.

Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.

Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?

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One nice tip is to simply have two separate blankets, quilts, or comforters. You don’t randomly wake up too hot or too cold, but still are able to cuddle. I definitely also agree that good sleep is essential to our health. I have done a number of things to improve my quality of sleep that have helped tremendously. In the US, some people frown upon kids getting to sleep with their parents. I see both sides. I can remember having nightmares and wanted mom to fall asleep with me. Doctors, psychologists, parents have differed in their opinions a lot in our history depending on era, studies, and cultures. I don’t have children yet. This is a helpful article. Not all parents are the same and not all children are the same.

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My dad decide to put my lil sis in the same room as me. At first we sleep in the same queen bed. But she love sleep in cold, she turn on a/c 24/7 though. Meanwhile I am superb sensitive to cold to the point my nerve feel pain. So we decide separate room will do.

I wonder if I get married soon I might want my husband to sleep separately with me.

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It all depends on the local practices, but it doesn't scientifically proves that sleeping separately in beneficial.

Respect the naturality, follow it up. Couples should sleep together, that is factually beneficial !

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I had a Japanese wife once, and she had no problems sleeping with me as long as she thought she had a chance of getting pregnant. But once she realized we were not going to have any more kids, she set up shop in another room, and pulled the plug on any intimacy.

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I'm not agree with this article because this a time when the life partner share problems of whole day wife is only person or a friend to whom the husband share every type of problem without any hesitation and also take care of child not duty of wife only she also need sufficient sleeping hours.

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You don't have to agree with the article: it is not asking you to adopt the habit, it is just explaining why the Japanese have the habit.

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