My Dad Gave Away My Inheritance Because I’m Childfree, I Served a Payback He Won’t Forget

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My Dad Gave Away My Inheritance Because I’m Childfree, I Served a Payback He Won’t Forget

I always thought my dad loved me no matter what. We didn’t agree on everything, sure, but I never imagined he’d actually punish me for not wanting kids.

Turns out, he didn’t just disagree with my choice, he used it as an excuse to take something that was meant for me and hand it to someone else. That’s when I decided to give him a reality check he’ll never forget. Now my mom is saying what I did was uncalled-for and terrible.

Hi, thank you for reading my story!

I’m 29, single, and don’t have kids. My dad has been on my case for years, always nagging, “Don’t waste your youth, be a mom while you still can.”

I told him I’m not ready and maybe never will be, but he never stopped. He acted like being a mother is the only way a woman’s life matters, and honestly, it got super annoying.

Today, I found out that he actually gave my inheritance to my cousin, just because she has a son. I couldn’t believe it. He told me straight up that she “deserved it more” since she’s raising a family and could carry on “family legacy”, while I’m “just living for myself.”

I smiled, stayed calm, and didn’t say much in front of everyone. But inside, I was boiling.

Later, I went over to his house. He looked surprised to see me.

I sat down and told him calmly, “I have a serious boyfriend now. And whether we get married or have babies, you’ll never hear from me again. You’ll never see the face of your grandchild. Congratulations, you just ruined your life. Hope my cousin looks after you when you’re old. You’re now childfree, you don’t have a daughter.”

He didn’t say a word. Just sat there staring at me, speechless. I walked out, and I haven’t spoken to him since. My phone’s been blowing up with texts from my mom saying I was too harsh, but honestly? I don’t think so.

In fact, I told her that the same goes for her. She should’ve taken my side.

This wasn’t about money anymore. It was about respect. He decided that being childfree made me less worthy, that I didn’t “need” an inheritance because I don’t have kids to pass it to. That’s cruel, and I’m done trying to please someone who measures my worth by how many grandchildren I can give him.

Does anyone else have an experience like mine or am I just unlucky, lol?

Sometimes, it may feel like everyone’s just looking out for themselves. Here are some stories of kindness to brighten up your day: 12 True Stories That Show the Power of Kindness.

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Harsh? How about SELFISH, GREEDY, ENTITLED! I don't care what he left or WHO he left it to, IT IS HIS UNTIL HE DIES. Why The Fuck do ALL OF YOU UNGRATEFUL CHILDREN think that you should "INHERIT" anything? So you don't want kids, that is ok, and in today's world it's smart. He wants grandkids to "carry on the family legacy" (i.e. The Bloodline), again, so what. Can't you love your father and respect his choice? Can't he do the same for you? Tying an "INHERITANCE" to demands tells me that neither of you have the emotional intelligence to be a parent. For all you both know, there may be NO INHERITANCE, dad may spend it all before he passes. What about your mom, is SHE GOING TO DIE WHEN HE DOES? There are too many variables to consider. Let him spend or leave HIS AND YOUR MOM'S possessions and money and WHATEVER to whomever they want to, it is THEIRS AFTERALL. It sucks that he equates receiving his estate to being a parent, but it's his to do with as he pleases. You cutting them out of your life is YOUR CHOICE. Doing it because you are pissed off is childish and petty. If you just work hard and live your life on your own terms you SHOULD BE ok. If there's something else that you have not told us about going on, I might sympathize with you. If your father can't love you for who you are that is his problem, but by you BOTH being more concerned about who's getting what and why, then you deserve each other, and should NEVER BE A PARENT!

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So love is measured by you in what is left to you? Now, your dad was wrong to hold money over your head as a punishment, but if your relationship boils down to only money, then you're just as wrong as he is. Sorry, not sorry. I loved my parents dearly, and all they could leave me was debt, but it was never about money, love and connection should never be about money. So, I honestly think everyone was wrong....including you....just my opinion, but as long as you're comfortable with your choices I say, you don't need anyone's approval. Just live your life on your terms. Nothing wrong with that.

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