My Husband Skipped Our Baby’s Birth — He Had "More Important" Plans

Family & kids
month ago

The birth of a child is one of the most significant moments in a couple's life, but Teresa was heartbroken when her husband chose to spend the day with his son instead of being present for the birth of their baby. This decision set off a chain of unfortunate events, leaving her unsure of how to move forward. Now, she's seeking advice on how to navigate the challenges ahead.

Here is Teresa’s letter:

Teresa, can you forgive him for not turning up for the birth of your baby? Can you forget that he was not there for you and your daughter? Can you let all of this go, because these are going to be your lifetime of memories? Is he worth it? Will he always be there when YOU and BABY need him the most? Can you trust him? Good luck❤️

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Communication is key. Talk to each other and remember to listen! Remember that the child is the primary consideration and also innocent. Consider counseling if you think things are not going in a satisfactory direction. Good luck.

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Iwould tell him I don't care if he has 10 you don't it sounds like the wife is jealous the ex I meant.I don't think I could stay married to him,but that's me.if your in a position that you can take care of yourself and have help with the baby,I'd be gone

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Thank you for sharing your story, Teresa! We’ve prepared some tips that can help you navigate through this situation.

Address your feelings with your husband.

Sit down with him and explain how deeply hurt you were by his decision to prioritize his son’s football game over the birth of your daughter. Mention that his absence, especially during such a significant moment, felt like a betrayal. He may not realize how damaging it was for you emotionally. Try to get him to understand why his actions have made you question the future of your relationship.

Establish boundaries with his ex.

His ex’s comments were not only hurtful but also highly inappropriate. Tell your husband how disrespectful it felt when she belittled your child’s importance.

You might also want to confront his ex directly, making it clear that while she may have her opinions, she has no place undermining your family. Set clear boundaries to avoid her interference in your marriage.

Evaluate his commitment to both families.

His ex implied that his "first family" will always matter more, but you need to determine if that’s truly how your husband feels. Ask him directly if he shares her view. If he does, this will be a major issue going forward, as it suggests he might continue to neglect his role in your new family.

Knowing where he stands will help you make an informed decision about whether the marriage can work.

Consider counseling before making a final decision.

If you need counseling I'd leave.its black and white,he did a gerky thing

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Before jumping to divorce, you might benefit from couples counseling to explore the root of his behavior. A professional can mediate and help uncover whether his reaction was a one-time issue or indicative of deeper problems. If his attitude doesn’t change, or he doesn’t show a willingness to improve, then you’ll have more clarity on whether divorce is the right path.

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Mabe he should of asked her opinion before he went against her wishes behind her back. I can't imagine the emotions she experienced by being blindsided at her sister in law's home!!

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