8 Sure Signs Your Relationship Is Going to the Next Level
We all enter relationships for many different reasons, but the main contributing factor for us going into something so serious is companionship. We want to have someone close to us that we can talk to and share our everyday life and reality with. However, it’s almost impossible to know how things will progress further along and if the relationship will last.
Bright Side has come up with some definite signs that can help you identify if your relationship is heading down the aisle (metaphorically speaking).
1. You have endless topics to talk about.
Being able to find someone and spend as much time with them as possible gives you an inside look into their mind and psychology. This way, you can see how compatible you are. If you’re with someone that you can have long conversations with, even after 10 years of knowing them, this is a really good sign.
This means you’ll always have something to talk about with each other because you both find your conversations to be extremely interesting. You don’t have to talk about politics or world news — even a long conversation about your favorite animals or subjects that are not considered that important can keep the relationship’s spark! This is a sure sign that your relationship is heading down a positive path.
2. You have countless inside jokes.
Having a relationship with someone you can call your best friend is something that’s meant to last. When you have someone you tend to spend your day-to-day life with, even if you’re far away and are still able to share little details that end in inside jokes, it shows that you have a strong bond with each other and share a similar sense of humor. Making each other laugh and enjoying each other’s goofy side is the key to happiness and everyone can relate to that, especially when they think of their best friend.
According to research done by the University of Vancouver, couples who consider their spouse to be their best friend had higher levels of happiness and satisfaction than those who didn’t. Being in a relationship with someone you can call your best friend means that you have great communication and that you spend more time together in order to get comfortable enough to share little embarrassing details that you can then laugh about!
3. You find their annoying habits extremely cute.
Everyone has minor bad habits — some are not as obvious as others — but once you’re with someone for a long time, you’ll start to notice those little annoying things that make them special. For example, they might have a bad habit of never checking their phone or constantly keeping it on silent so you can hardly ever reach them. Even though most people could find that annoying, you know them very well and may find it cute that they’re not addicted to being on their phone all the time.
Or perhaps they have a really annoying laugh that everyone finds intolerable but you find hilarious! There are countless traits and habits that most people would find annoying, but when you’re with someone you really care about, you see those habits as part of their identity and you love them more because of it!
4. You have a toothbrush and an extra pair of PJs at their place.
As relationships progress, it’s normal to leave some of your stuff over at your partner’s house. The simple act of leaving just one toothbrush or hairbrush over at your partner’s house can have a very deep symbolic meaning in today’s society in general. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re planning to move in together, but it means you enjoy spending the afternoons and evenings together rather than being on your own.
If you start to notice that you have an extra toothbrush and some of your necessities at your partner’s place without it being a nuisance for either of you, it means that the relationship is slowly progressing to the next level. And don’t panic when you hear the term, “next level”! All it means is that you’re comfortable and trusting enough to have some of your stuff over at each other’s places without it being a big deal.
5. You can’t stand spending nights apart.
Spending your nights with your significant other is one of the most amazing feelings in the world! You get to cuddle and watch movies together, and it oftentimes feels like one of those sleepovers we used to have when we were kids. Sometimes, however, you have to spend time apart when situations arise because of things like work or family. If you feel absolutely miserable when you spend time apart, this means that your relationship has reached a point where you’re both very used to being with each other and the other’s absence leaves you feeling incomplete.
According to research, couples who are used to spending most of their time together and who have established a routine every day can suffer from separation anxiety when they have to spend time apart. They can also experience mild depression and insomnia. Even though experiencing separation anxiety is quite rare, if you spend nights apart and you feel like something is not okay with you emotionally, then it’s probably because you’re so used to having your loved one around that you can’t stand to be apart from them in your everyday life.
6. You both use the word “we” a lot.
When you’re in a relationship with someone, you always try to find time to spend with your friends and family so that you ruin relationships with people in your circle! However, because you tend to spend most of your time with your significant other, your activities become both your activities. And that’s when the “we” starts becoming a common word in your vocabulary.
You say things like, “We watched this movie together,” or “We’re going out together with all of our friends,” or “We don’t really like this restaurant and we’re looking for new places to hang out at.” When these kinds of situations start entering your life, it means that those activities you used to do on your own are now “couple” activities that both of you enjoy!
7. You mention them in random conversations.
It’s normal at the beginning of each relationship to mention your significant other often because you’re at the point of falling in love and you can’t stop thinking about them. However, when you catch yourself mentioning them in conversations that have nothing to do with them in particular, this means that you already see them as part of your identity.
You associate with them in such a way that when a conversation arises that has the slightest association with them, you mention them because you know so much about them and they’re becoming a huge part of your life. This is when you’re subconsciously realizing that they are potentially the person you might spend the rest of your life with.
8. Your arguments are the most interesting thing ever.
It’s absolutely natural to argue with someone occasionally, especially when you’ve been together for a long time! It could be over the littlest things that don’t have any particular significance. If this happens and these arguments spark your overall feelings toward each other instead of draining you emotionally, this means it’s something that is bound to last. This is because having healthy arguments while still getting your point across can help improve the relationship and help you to learn more about each other rather than agreeing on everything and losing interest in the long run.
What are your thoughts about these signs? Please share the relationship experiences you’ve had and what you think is the key to a healthy, lifelong partnership!
Illustrated by Daniil Shubin for BrightSide.me