I Kicked My Friends Out of My Home After Their Daughter’s Tantrum
Adapting to your friends having a family of their own can be difficult, and this woman can testify to that. All she wanted was to have a good time with her friends, but she ended up kicking them out of her home because of their daughter.
I decided to cook something that I know kids and adults will enjoy. I made chicken parmesan with chocolate cake for dessert. I figured that was a kind of different presentation of chicken nuggets, which children tend to like.
Mike and Sandra told me the dinner was good, maybe they were being nice, but they ate everything. However, the girl ate very little throughout dinner, and I’m not even sure she actually did eat something.
A couple of minutes passed, and I saw that Sandra was giving me a dirty look. I asked her if I could help her calm her daughter down, even though it’s not easy for me to deal with children. I honestly didn’t know what else to do. When I asked what was wrong, Sandra just snorted and said, “Don’t you have anything to say to Charlie?”
It took me a few seconds to realize that she wanted me to apologize to her daughter because she hadn’t eaten the dinner I had prepared. I thought that might put the girl’s mind at ease, so I told her I was sorry she didn’t like my food.
While Sandra kept trying to convince me to make something different for her daughter, Mike stood there without saying a word, eating his dessert. I stood up and asked Mike if he wanted me to give him his cake to go because the rest of his family looked like they weren’t having a good time at my house. I suggested that they go home, so Sandra could get their daughter something to eat.
Sandra started to say that she had thought I was going to cook and that she could have a night off, out of the kitchen. At that point, I felt like I was about to say something I would regret later, so I just told her to get out of my house. Mike looked very embarrassed when they left. I haven’t spoken to either of them since that day, and I’m now starting to question if it was my mistake and if I reacted the wrong way by kicking them out of my house.
Setting boundaries is hard when you’re not the parent, but here are some tips that might be helpful if you find yourself in a similar situation to this user:
- Decide what your boundary is. It’s valid to make it clear to your friends that you set the rules in your home. When this is communicated kindly and clearly, it can be a starting point for a more respectful friendship.
- Find other ways to connect with your friends. If being physically in the same space is not possible, for whatever reason, you can find alternatives. A video call to watch a movie together or even just to chat can become an effective way to keep in touch.
- Your friends should also do their part. Every relationship takes effort, so don’t be afraid to talk about it. Sure, your friends who have children have busy schedules, but for the friendship to persist, they must also be willing to be flexible and empathetic with you.
Maintaining friendships can be difficult. And if you manage to hold out for more than 10 years, then this relationship is truly special.