I Kicked My Friends Out of My Home After Their Daughter’s Tantrum

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Adapting to your friends having a family of their own can be difficult, and this woman can testify to that. All she wanted was to have a good time with her friends, but she ended up kicking them out of her home because of their daughter.

I decided to cook something that I know kids and adults will enjoy. I made chicken parmesan with chocolate cake for dessert. I figured that was a kind of different presentation of chicken nuggets, which children tend to like.

Mike and Sandra told me the dinner was good, maybe they were being nice, but they ate everything. However, the girl ate very little throughout dinner, and I’m not even sure she actually did eat something.

A couple of minutes passed, and I saw that Sandra was giving me a dirty look. I asked her if I could help her calm her daughter down, even though it’s not easy for me to deal with children. I honestly didn’t know what else to do. When I asked what was wrong, Sandra just snorted and said, “Don’t you have anything to say to Charlie?”

It took me a few seconds to realize that she wanted me to apologize to her daughter because she hadn’t eaten the dinner I had prepared. I thought that might put the girl’s mind at ease, so I told her I was sorry she didn’t like my food.

While Sandra kept trying to convince me to make something different for her daughter, Mike stood there without saying a word, eating his dessert. I stood up and asked Mike if he wanted me to give him his cake to go because the rest of his family looked like they weren’t having a good time at my house. I suggested that they go home, so Sandra could get their daughter something to eat.

Sandra started to say that she had thought I was going to cook and that she could have a night off, out of the kitchen. At that point, I felt like I was about to say something I would regret later, so I just told her to get out of my house. Mike looked very embarrassed when they left. I haven’t spoken to either of them since that day, and I’m now starting to question if it was my mistake and if I reacted the wrong way by kicking them out of my house.

If anyone needed to apologize it was mommy. I'd be happy not hearing from them again. Daughter doesn't want to eat? Oh well, stop at a fast food place after leaving.

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Setting boundaries is hard when you’re not the parent, but here are some tips that might be helpful if you find yourself in a similar situation to this user:

  • Decide what your boundary is. It’s valid to make it clear to your friends that you set the rules in your home. When this is communicated kindly and clearly, it can be a starting point for a more respectful friendship.
  • Find other ways to connect with your friends. If being physically in the same space is not possible, for whatever reason, you can find alternatives. A video call to watch a movie together or even just to chat can become an effective way to keep in touch.
  • Your friends should also do their part. Every relationship takes effort, so don’t be afraid to talk about it. Sure, your friends who have children have busy schedules, but for the friendship to persist, they must also be willing to be flexible and empathetic with you.

Maintaining friendships can be difficult. And if you manage to hold out for more than 10 years, then this relationship is truly special.

Please note: This article was updated in July 2023 to correct source material and factual inaccuracies.
Preview photo credit ImSoSorryCharlie / Reddit

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I feel like you shouldn't have to apologize it's your house and she should teach her child something about manners no said she had to eat the cake they could have politely asked for something different

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this lady did what she thought was the right thing and asked beforehand if there was anything she should know before cooking the meal and nothing was mentioned so in my opinion definitely nothing to apologise for, and the expectation that the host should cook her child something different is ridiculous.

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year ago
Big Brother is watching you.
year ago
No comment – no problem.

I would have told the spoiled entitled brat there is bread, jam and peanut butter in the kitchen if she wants to fix herself a PBJ, that I was done cooking for the day!

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The woman should have said that Charlie doesn't like chocolate when she was asked so

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If a child is a picky eater then they should feed her before they came or bring a dish they knew she would eat. Dessert is a treat, if she doesn't like chocolate (who doesn't like chocolate!) then I guess she does without dessert. Her parents are doing her a favor.

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i thought the host was ignorant the kid was little,she should have told the mom to make her kid a sandwich

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Oops, the admin pressed "delete".

No where does it say the kid was little. I actually saw this story on another site. The kid was a bit older; I think 12 or 13. Definitely too old to be pitching a fit over food.

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How was the host ignorant? She asked the mom and she said they eat anything. The host made chicken parmesan which is very kid friendly. She then made a chocolate cake because again Mom said anything is ok. I fail to see how the host did anything wrong. The guests were jerks though.

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Nah she had already asked about preferences. Moreover if people invite you to dinner, it's polite for you to bring something along too especially in this century.

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Thats a BS answer. The host ASKED THE MOTHER about food prior to them attending. The mother should have taken control of the child. Join the real world.........

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She could sit at the table and manage utensils on her own. There's no reason to make a separate meal and she'll be learning in many places that won't be an option like school.

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I would've told the mother to go and buy her kid something else cos she ain't wasting another bit of my food while other children ARE DYING OF HUNGER!!! I would've said it exactly like that too!

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You did ask if there were any food problems. If you'd said what you were preparing they could have said. But if the kid decides at that moment she hates chocolate, there's not much you can do. For future reference, a large container if ice cream in the freezer may be your answer. Likewise if taking kids out to eat, take ice cream or alternative dessert with you. I remember being given canned fruit and evaporated milk for dessert at a family gathering. I hated the milk but after a LOOK from my mother I ate the lot without complaint.

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Obesity is a problem in this country and there's nothing that says meals require celebratory additional treat for having finished the meal.

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Nobody should have to prepare for every little scenario for someone else’s kid. She shouldn’t have to buy five plan B desserts just in case the daughter throws a fit about it each one, if the daughter doesn’t like the cake then she doesn’t need to freaking cry about it, she can eat something at home.

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Wow you dodged a bullet!! Now you know NEVER talk to that chic and her brat again! Lucky it was you cuz I would have shown THEM the door immediately. I also would have told BOTH mom and daughter OFF!! Kid is old enough for a STERN talking to! Especially in MY home!

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Please stop insulting the daughter. The mom is the one that asked for something else to be made and yes, the daughter is spoiled and a brat, but it’s the parents fault clearly, and they need to raise her better. Like no way in heck is someone cooking a whole new meal for your daughter, teach her to be grateful.

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