I Refuse to Sacrifice My Husband’s Business for My Sister’s Wedding

2 months ago

I Refuse to Sacrifice My Husband’s Business for My Sister’s Wedding

Weddings can bring out the best, and the most unexpected, in people. One woman’s sister’s big day was around the corner when she made a jaw-dropping request: she wanted her husband’s transportation business to chauffeur her guests for free.

She explained the situation:

“My sister is getting married soon. I was at her place helping with some wedding prep when she suddenly says, ‘I want to announce free transportation for all my wedding guests, you know, to make it look classy.’

I was like, ‘Okay, that’s nice, but how are you pulling that off?’

She says, ‘Since your husband owns a transportation business and has a few cars, it’ll be easy for him to handle.’

I said, ‘Alright, he will be here soon to pick me up when he comes, you guys can talk and maybe bargain the price.’

She cuts me off and goes, ‘No, I don’t want to pay. I mean, I want him to offer it for free to my guests.’ I just looked at her.

Then she adds, ‘You can talk to him, he’ll accept. He listens to you.’

I then asked her, ‘Why then do you want to promise free services to people when you’re not the one providing them?’ She said, ‘I have rich friends I invited for the wedding, and you know what that means. I want to make it look so classic, you can talk to him about it.’

I told her straight out, ‘I’m not going to convince my husband to pause his business, offer up his cars, fuel, drivers, and time all for free just so you can look good in front of your rich friends.’

She said I’m not being supportive to her.”

People stood on her side:

Ilonka Wimmer-Ljungqvist

month ago

Oh my, So everything depends on your sister wanting to appear "richer" than her wallet is? Everything seems to be "Look at me, see how I can show off how well off I am" Everything is how "appearance" is in front of others.
Sorry but my horns and tail just grew out... I would go out on social media and talk about what your sister wants...and that you will NOT provide free rides to everyone. There must be some moderation in the craziness.
I would also think about whether or not I should attend the wedding. Sister seems to be all about showing off and bragging even though she doesn't have the means to pay for things.

If she can’t afford the image she’s trying to sell, maybe it’s not the image she should be selling.
© SuccessfulDance08 / Reddit
Don’t write a check your veil can’t cash. © Optimal-Hunt-3269 / Reddit
The entitlement is eye watering in this case. I’m glad you stood up for your husband and his business. Where did she think the money to pay salaries would come from? Not to mention loss of income from all the vehicles being out of commission. © Klutzy-Contest-1640 / Reddit
I would tell Bridezilla that NO is a complete sentence! © JustanOldBabyBoomer / Reddit

Others thought differently:

Susan Leigh Jackson

2 months ago

Why start a marriage out trying to make others believe you are someone you are not? Why give 'rich' people freebees? Us commoners have to work for a living to scrape by and live paycheck to paycheck. The bride is NOT offering free rides, she is expecting her BIL to offer free rides and is entirely different. Employees/ still need to get paid for their time driving people around.

Why don’t you try to compromise? She covers the costs, and your husband does it without a profit. © Sandy_*** / Reddit
The subtle rage bait is the way OP is making the bride come off so entitled and shallow. Family should help family, so yeah, he should talk to her and do it as a gift as long as it’s not a hardship. If they are a close family, there would be no question. © PFG123456789 / Reddit
I actually don’t think it’s that entitled, she’s just asking and wants that day to be special and nice. She never demanded that your husband pay for it, just that you might ask if it’s possible, which you refused. I can understand your point of view and I know it’s an unpopular opinion, but I hardly think someone’s entitled for asking if you could at least inquire. I might be wrong though who knows, I just like to play devil’s advocate. © Similar_Promotion_41 / Reddit

Tell us what you think in the comments! And don’t forget to check out this other article about sister conflict as well: I’m Keeping My Pregnancy a Secret From My Sister Because of Her Past Behavior.

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Sharon Little

month ago

No no transportation for free. If she wants to ask your husband then SHE needs to ask him.

Maryann Lima Lawson

4 weeks ago

I genuinely can't understand the people that keep saying that it's not going to cause hardship for your husband to provide free transportation. Do they not realize that fuel, wear and tear and paying his drivers for the day will have to come out of his pocket if she's not willing to pay for it? That could end up being thousands of dollars depending upon how many cars, drivers and hours she wants to book. How is that not a hardship on your husband and yourself because that would also be household money that is going to pay for all of this. Workers don't work for free, vehicles don't run on air and mechanics and detailers won't take care of the cars without a fee.

DO Mum

4 weeks ago

Reading some of the comments, I wonder if they are reading the same write up as I am. Op mentioned that sister can bargain for the payment with her husband. Sister wanted it for free to keep up with appearances for her rich friends. So yes, sister is entitled when she accused OP for not being supportive.

Letitia Rose Mae

4 weeks ago

If the sister wasn't entitled, she would have asked the brother in law directly instead of asking sister to convince him because she knew it's a huge ask. It's not "family helping family", sister isn't asking for help to cover the cost of a few necessities. She literally just doesn't want guests calling their own taxis because it will make her appear as poor as she is.