My Husband Skipped Our Baby’s Birth—He Had ‘More Important’ Plans, but I Had the Last Word

We recently received a heartfelt letter from a reader who shared her story about one of the most painful days of her life—a day that should have been filled with joy but turned into a defining moment of betrayal.

The story with her words.

“When I went into labor three weeks early, I called my husband from the hospital. His voice was calm — too calm. ‘I can’t be there right now. This meeting could change everything for us.’

Through the pain, I begged him to come. He said, ‘I’ll make it up to you,’ and hung up.

I delivered our daughter surrounded by nurses and a sympathetic doctor, but no father. 14 hours later, I sent him a photo of her tiny face. No reply.

The next morning, I found out where he’d really been — not in a boardroom, but at a weekend getaway with a woman from his office.

When he finally showed up a few days later with flowers, I handed him divorce papers instead of the baby.

Sometimes the ‘more important’ plans aren’t what they tell you... and sometimes the ending isn’t what they expect.

Thank you for the opportunity to share my story with you.”

Does Cheating Happen More During Pregnancy?

Infidelity is always painful — but during pregnancy, it hits different. You’re at your most vulnerable, your body and emotions are in constant flux, and the person you expect to lean on is supposed to be your safe place. Instead, you’re blindsided.

Sadly, cheating during pregnancy isn’t as rare as you’d hope. Experts say the combination of emotional strain, shifting intimacy, and life-changing responsibility can push cracks in a relationship wide open. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault — ever — but knowing the warning signs can protect you.

6 Signs Your Partner Might Be Cheating While You’re Pregnant.

Sudden Phone Privacy — If he’s guarding his phone like it’s a top secret, deleting messages, or stepping out to “take a quick call,” it might be more than business.

Emotional Withdrawal — When pregnancy talk is met with silence, indifference, or changed subjects, that’s a red flag.

Intimacy Shifts — A sudden drop in affection or a suspicious overcompensation could signal guilt.

Frequent Absences — More “late nights at work” or vague explanations for disappearing should make you take note.

Guilt Gifts — Random lavish presents with no occasion might not be romance — they might be conscience-clearing.

Defensiveness — If simple questions spark angry overreactions or accusations that you’re paranoid, pay attention.

Why It Happens (But Never Justifies It).

According to relationship experts, common reasons some men cheat during pregnancy include:

Fear of Responsibility — Fatherhood can feel overwhelming, and some escape instead of stepping up.

Lack of Intimacy — Changes in physical closeness during pregnancy can push insecure partners toward outside validation.

Ego Boosts & Temptation — Opportunities to cheat combined with low self-esteem can create a dangerous mix.

Emotional Immaturity — Some simply can’t handle the emotional weight of pregnancy.

Pre-Existing Relationship Issues — Old cracks in the foundation may widen under the stress of impending parenthood.

Expert Advice: Protecting Yourself & Your Baby

Therapists recommend:

Lean on a Support System — Friends, family, or support groups can help you stay grounded.

Prioritize Your Health — Stress management techniques like meditation or prenatal yoga can help safeguard both you and your baby.

Get Professional Help — Couples counseling (if you choose to stay) or individual therapy can guide you through betrayal recovery.

Cheating during pregnancy isn’t about you not being “enough” — it’s about your partner’s choices. You deserve a relationship built on trust, respect, and honesty.

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