I Excluded My Stepdaughter From Our Family Trip

Yes that's the way you should be treated.

There is no STEP in a real Family!! Your actions practically scream, you have a hard, selfish heart. I hope your “Real Kids”, recognise that about you and do their best not to emulate you seeing how cruel you are to their sibling.
However you do give a fabulous representation of a nurturing, loving Plant Owner….

Lady, are you serious right now?!?!? You basically told your stepdaughter your plants are more important that she is. Hire someone!! There are companies out there that offer "plant sitting". They will send someone to water your plants however often you need them watered. You are the epitome of a wicked stepmother!! Your husband should've done something before ya'll left but at least he's seeing what an awful stepmother you're being!!

What a :&$#7+) of person are you. If I was your better half, divorce. What a way to show your Loving compassion and caring. You should have stayed home!!!!

I will never understand the mindset of people who KNOWINGLY enter relationships with people who Already have children and mistreated them. How can you Honestly say you love a person and mistreat any part of them. She is horrid and I pray her next husband doesn't treat her children how she's treating her stepdaughter.

You asked for it by choosing your plants over your stepdaughter getting to enjoy a family vacation with her FAMILY! If you don't consider her as part of your family then your husband should game told you to leave a long time ago

In what universe would you think this is ok? Your stepdaughter is 15, your oldest is 14. That means she has been in your life since sge was 1 year old! How do you leave her out of a family vacation???? But why did your husband go? Why didnt he just say, no thats not right. We are sll going or none of us are? Thats a really strange part, to me. I feel like you have left out a bunch of info. But one thing is apparent, you are a terrible human being.

The epitome of an evil stepmother. Unless the stepdaughter was the demon seed, nothing justifies leaving her out of a "family" vacation. Judging from the father's response, I don't believe that this was an isolated incident. It's quite possible that there were other times where Evelline's passive-aggressive attitude made an appearance, and Dad noticed. Waiting for an opportune moment like the vacation to show her where his priorities lie was a stroke of genius. Either his wife's attitude will change, or her zip code.

I hope you learned something that day. Karma can be cruel. If you are a mother you don't pick favorites. Family is more than blood sometimes.

Lol ! Utterly ridiculous woman. She does need to go live with her mother. I understand plants are important in some people's lives but asking a 15-year old stepdaughter to stay behind during a FAMILY TRIP,TO FREAKING SPAIN...30$ a day ..30?!??to add insult to injury....
I'm GLAD THE HUSBAND SAID SOMETHING TO HER but he should have done it BEFORE leaving for Spain and took his daughter with them anyways 🙄this has got to be a freaking joke SUCH a stupid thing to even dare to ask if s stepchild who deserves to go on a family trip also. She should have asked a friend a coworker whatever...so dumb.iy has gotta be fake!!! 🤥

Awful
Mean

I have no words for this

You're 100% wrong on this. The fact that you didn't talk to over with your husband & daughter. & just assume it was ok not to involve her with the FAMILY VACATION. Tells what kind of person you are. Do you know what family means?? And to think her father would of been ok with it. You need to wake up & realize what you did. You also need to grow up. You could had paid a company or a neighbor to water your plants. Or did the exact same thing your husband did.

You also mentioned your oldest is 15. Middle is 14. Regardless if your 15 yr old has a different mother. She's still your daughter also. Why even say step daughter. You been in her life since she was a baby. Anyway I hope you're headed to divorce court

The fact that you wrote this, read this and posted this, expecting anyone to side with you shows how truly clueless and hopeless you are.
I hope your husband does leave you because his daughter doesn't deserve your horrible treatment.
I know none of this is going to get through to you but I really hope you mature and apologize to your whole family for being just terrible. And you should give your stepdaughter a huge apology and something special for her to make up for how low you made her feel. And probably make her feel every day she interferes with 'your' family.

You were on the wrong, you could have a agency to do the work. You show your stepdaughter that your plants were more important then her.

You weren't being unfair.
You were being a complete selfish cunt.
If I was you husband I would've made you stay at home with the plants like the loser you are

You’re a horrible person to do that to your stepdaughter. He should have had them take all of your belongings along with the plants.

You ruined your own vacation and maybe your marriage with your selfish thoughtless actions. You put plants before people you proclaimed to love. I don't think you know what love is. Your husband is absolutely right. You deserve to be left alone with your precious plants

Yes it is, you didn't have a conversation with either your husband or your stepdaughter. You proclaimed that she had to stay and excluded her. You're lucky he just had them moved.

I'm glad he did what he did however he should have stood firm and told her either his daughter goes or they don't go. That woman, I will not refer to her as a 'stepmother' should be ashamed of herself. What kind of example is she setting for the other two children. I hope he divorces her

OP, your step daughter is 15, and your oldest, with your husband is 14? So you were the other woman who ruined his marriage?

That was the most disgusting thing a step parent could have done. You should have been ashamed of yourself. And this is coming from a step parent of 2 kids. Just nasty

What kind of person are you? That was extremely cruel and I'm surprised he didn't just tell you to get out.

The author of this article and OP should marry each other.lol

The woman is clearly in the wrong . She wanted to leave her 15 year old step daughter to water plants didn't discuss it with her father . This probably made that girl feel like she didn't belong . If I was the father I would of told her I am staying home and will be contacting a divorce attorney due to her heartless interaction with my daughter.

If this is true that lady is a narcissist and terrible human being. Good on the husband taking his daughter’s side.

Why did he even go on the trip. I would have stayed with my child. If I didn't disrespect my daughter, nobody else can either. Hope he sent a set of divorce papers along also

I believe OP overstepped their bounds. It was certainly NOT step mother’s place to exclude kid.

First question is, why is the husband on the trip and his daughter is home? Next question after arranging for the flowers to be sent to her mother's house why didn't he arrange a airline ticket for his daughter to join them on vacation? And the most important question of them all, why didn't he just cancel the vacation all together?

Also, seriously, who gave this advice??? Whoever wrote this should lose their job and never be allowed to offer advice again. I think I'm actually going to stop reading these after this garbage. Sickening.

So you left your 15 year old step daughter home alone to take care of the plants while you went on vacation with your two kids? Ever heard of Cinderella? YOU'RE the reason stories about wicked stepmothers exist!

You don’t deserve to be treated this nicely. How are you going to leave your stepdaughter on an excursion because you are only thinking of your plants? The entitlement disease is very real and very serious here.

Do you think your stepdaughter would not like to go to Spain as well. Stop one minute and think of yourself in her place. Everyone else is important and can go, but you decide she is not family. YOU could have taken them to your Mom's to have her take care of them. We all know from the way you started that you wanted to have YOUR family have the Vacation. Your husband got that so checkmate. If someone HAD to stay behind, it should have been YOU. Your plants,your problem. You would have been packing your clothes, to go with the plants. His house and no judge is going to award you anything after your behavior. Do not look for any support here because we are sick of people like you. Don't ask us how you should be treated. Quit coming up with excuses. She would have rather gone to Spain that water your plants. Maybe Dad and she can go.

The author of this "advice" article should give up on giving advice. She clearly didn't read her own source material, if she took plant-lady's side over the stepdaughter. The husband was 100% in the right to not only remove the plants from his home, but also telling her if she doesn't like it she can go too.

As for you Grace, do better. Seriously.

You got off easy, I would have doused them in gasoline and lit them up

Lady, you are callous. SMH. How could you as a mother exclude 1 child from a family vacation? How could you choose PLANTS over a human being?! I have a feeling this is the straw that broke the camel's back for your husband. I guarantee this isn't the first time you slighted his daughter. There's no way he could possibly look at you the same way. LADY, YOU ARE A HORRIBLE PERSON, JUST TERRIBLE.

Why water plants every day!

I CAN'T believe you. That was so wrong to begin with. I don't understand why she was excluded from a family vacation so wrong.

Are these real true stories! Sounds like AI manufactured this and so many of the others

Yta..She should have never been been excluded..I hope he divorces you..

Ewwwww....... your gross.... he should divorce you immediately

Yes. You deserved it.

You're a narcissist. Nothing matters but you. I hope he divorces you and doesn't subject his daughter to any more of this bad behavior on your part.

Your move to exclude your stepdaughter from the vacation has all the subtlety of a brick being tossed through the window of a church during a funeral. Tacky, tasteless. There is no justification for leaving SD at home, except that you never saw her as family from the beginning. Good on your husband for showing you where his priorities lie. Had he done this to YOUR children, you would have had a nuclear meltdown. In all fairness, next year he and his daughter should take a trip without you and your kids. In the meantime, if you have any desire to save your marriage, a genuine heartfelt apology is in order, for your husband and stepdaughter. Next, marital counseling, to address this incident. Before you pull a stunt like this again, you may want to ask yourself two questions: how would YOU have felt if the situation were reversed, and if you were to do something similar again, what reason would he have to stay around?

Your a joke. Not a step mom. A real step mom would've wanted the whole family to go... She's your step daughter not your maid who cares if your paying her. You should have been paying for her trip like you did the other 2 kids and enjoy your memories together. I hope your husband runs fast. That's horrible. Can you imagine how left out she felt

I would have booted you out of the vacation and took the three kids without you along. You make Cruella look like a saint. Shame on you. I hope your plants all died

IIs this entitled, self absorbed mistress of Satan serious? Let me ask one question honey, IF IT WERE YOUR CHILDREN LEFT BEHIND TO WATER PLANTS, would you be happy and content with whoever thought $30 a day was enough coin to override the pain of being left out, being Cinderella and doing chores while the 2 princesses are in Spain? NO! don't try and BS, you wouldn't. you'd likely retaliate worse. You're damn lucky that all he did was move your plants to your mother's house. I think its pathetic that hubby didn't insist his child go. if it were me, I'd have taken the 3 kids and a friend and left the wonderful plant loving wife at home. She should be thanking her lucky stars. Husband should have had his daughter record herself smashing the plants and send it to him and show her that. BOO-HOO their trip was ruined.... Is this sleezebag narcissist really that deluded she thinks that the trip was only ruined after her husband said that to her? NEWS FLASH plant Queen, the trip was ruined (by you) (for hubby and kids) before you left your house! I love where she says "he owns the house, but I'm his wife" YES THATS HOW YOU SHOULD BE TREATED!

Shocking, A thumbs up to the husband.

" You are absolutely a horrible Stepmother " !!!!!.How dare you?Why don't you stay behind and water them? Let everybody go and leave you behind lmao, lol

Can't you afford to pay someone to do it? Such as a landscaper or maybe a nice neighbor would lend a hand. I help my neighbors when they leave.

No, one should be left out of that vacation.No, one!!!! You seriously need to think about this.You should be ashamed of yourself, " Stepmother "!!!!!! I am disappointed in you.

This is exactly how you should be treated. Plants can sustain for at least ten days. I have plenty and I leave them for vacations. They live.

You're an asshole lady. You burned your marriage for plants. I love my 30 some plants but not over my marriage.

Yes bitch

Wtf? Your husband was right, you're a total pice of sh1t. You deserve to have your vacation ruined.

Have a question for op. What would have you done if the roles were reversed? My guess is that you are the type of person that only thinks about themselves. Plants are plants, if they die no big deal buy new ones. The lasting emotional scar you left on your stepdaughter last forever. Had I been the dad I would have had all the plants sent to the landfill.

Your a nasty uncaring woman I would treat you the same maybe worse that poor girl she must have been so excited.but you put an end to that I think you definatly go with your plants I am still trying to take this in that anyone could be so cruel to a young girl

I'd treat you worse you vile, nasty woman.

You would not treat your worst enemy like that.she should have stayed at home and send the children on holiday with they father .

This has to be fake, right? Who is that dense?

I hope her Spain trip was the biggest flop and her next husband treats her the same way she treated the stepdaughter

Yes it is. This is coming from someone who never had kids, on purpose. Good for him. Marriage counseling is needed. If he agrees to go. A divorce is a better idea for him.

You excluded his daughter, point blank. Hey Brightside: what grudge do you have against step kids? This lady is out of line and you know that.

Yes you are his wife but this his child and his first priority as it should be. If your plants are more important than his child perhaps you should go live with them. You're lucky he didn't destroy them and throw them in a dumpster. I would have.