I Refuse to Give Up My Business Class Seat to a Pregnant Woman

this story is false. Anyone who has ever been pregnant, knows that no OBGYN would ever advise a woman in her third trimester to fly.

This story makes it seem like he was the only person that could have given up their seat.

You chose to do the right thing

There was no reason to judge the man for not sharing his seat with her. Either she should have chosen not to fly for being 7 months pregnant or chosen a more appropiate seat when ordering her ticket

If you're pregnant and book a flight shouldn't you book a seat that you'll be comfortable in? I'm not sure why no one is pointing this out.

Steve, you chose to keep your upgraded seat and only you know the full reason for that. May be you didn’t feel compassion for a pregnant woman or just didn’t want to sacrifice your comfort. That was your right, and no one can take that away from you.

However, the flight attendant was right because If the woman had been your wife, daughter, or someone you loved, wouldn’t you have appreciated a kind gesture from someone else?

Your decision reflects your character. When we act with kindness, we often feel proud regardless of what others think. When we don’t, we still have to sit with that choice. Morally, you could’ve given up the seat. Logically, you didn’t have to.
That was your choice—own it, without guilt.

I think laying a guilt trip on the man passenger was wrong for the air hostess to do after all one of the air hostesses offered him the seat in the first place
I think the pregnant woman should have spoken up at ticketing but pregnant women can get upset at times allowing for that which I realise some men don't understand a woman when she's pregnant maybe when this woman flies again if pregnant she will ask at ticketing to consider her for upgrade if a seat become available the guy shouldn't feel guilty and maybe the flight attendant shouldn't be so verbal about her
judgement

Why didn't the woman say to the staff at or before boarding, "I am 7 month pregnant, is there a chance for a upgrade?"
He didn't ask for the upgrade, it was given to him. If the flight attendant had asked and explained the situation, things might have gone differently. For the flight attendant to probably send the woman up to business class to find seat 11C and ask if he would give up his seat was unprofessional on the flight attendants part.
Lastly, if this had been a man with medical issues, would the responces have been different.
In this case the flight attendant gave away the seat and should have been responsible for asking for it back, not getting a pregnant woman to guilt trip him into giving the seat up.

My take.

When "you" booked your flight, you were pregnant. You were given a seat assignment. When you arrived at the airport, you were still pregnant. Upon seeing your seat assignment you could have had a conversation at the desk about possibly reassigning your seat. You had to sit a wait before boarding, still pregnant. You are boarding and wait until you get on the plane to demand someone else's seat for your convenience. Yes, the gentleman's seat was an upgrade, but it was given to him. Yes, pregnacy can be stressful, but poor planning on your part is not my emergency. There is also a possibility he may have considered courtesy had you spoken kindly about your situation. When you did not get what you wanted you performed your best act and received the attention you wanted and stirred others to become judgemental. The flight attendant, whose position is to follow protocol and try to bring resolve to any situation that may arise, acted in a non professional manner.

In the end, the gentleman was criticized for making a decision for his convenience because he did not give in to the act of entitlement. "You" made a decision that caused others to become involved based on your tantrum for your convenience.

Sir, you were not wrong.

You received the upgrade, not her. She still had a seat, just not the one she wanted. I probably would have given a gentle response instead of just ignoring her, ‘No, I’m sorry, but this is the seat I was given, perhaps the flight attendant is able to locate a seat that suits you better’. Besides, how did this woman know to approach you? Did the mean flight attendant tip her off that you received the upgrade? Should let the airline know it is behavior unbecoming of a staff member.

Nope, you're not a bad guy. I believe there's not only one business class seat in the plane, then why must have to be you? Why not other business class passengers that should give up their seat for the pregnant woman?? I really hate people taking others for advantages. The pregnant woman should buy her own business class seat and not emotional blackmailed others for her own benefits. Shame on her.

Nope... not your fault.. That woman let herself get hyped up because you did not let her steal your seat. She's probably been using the "I'm pregnant" excuse to get her way with a lot of people. Some folks just have a built-in sense of entitlement. Don't worry yourself over that.

This is ridiculous. No way should he have moved and she was being entitled. She is not his responsibility -- unless of course he is the one who got her pregnant. Otherwise, just NO. I refuse to switch with Karen's or Kevin's like this -- and just tell them to go away. Sick of these entitled people traveling and walking around in the world. Just need to shut them down.

AND - that Airline Stewardess was polite and restrained - a real credit to the Airline which employs her.

But she wasn't offered the seat, he was. You don't get to just jump up and end demand something that was offered to someone else, just because you are pregnant. If you want a better class seat when you are pregnant, buy one. That woman suffered zero issues because of this situation, the only issue she had was her hissy fit. Next time, she should get knocked up by someone who can afford better seats, or get a job herself that affords her those seats. They weren't hers to accept.

What has happened to generosity, kindness, concern for our fellow man/ woman? If the woman lied that's on her conscience.
You would have done the right, decent, kind and thoughtful thing.
Your conscience then would have been clear. The fact that you need to ask strangers opinions tells you that you doubt your own actions. When we doubt what we have done it generally means we made a mistake.

Yes.

This flight attendant needs to be reported to the airlines. Upgrades are earned by being loyal to the airlines. IF this truly woman had such issues flying at this point in her pregnancy she should have stayed home. More like she faked this episode to get attention as she was fine after the flight landed.

I'd report the attendant to airline. She might have thought you were wrong, but she was way out of line to call you on your decision. If the pregnant woman wanted an upgrade, she should have asked the attendant, not harassed you.

I would've done the same if I were you

Poor Steve! Please don't feel bad. You did the right thing.

No Sir you didn't.

Of course the pregnant 'actress' went into the whole overwhelmed bit. She got lots of attention as well as the staff and other passengers mad at you. Yet, she had miraculously recovered at the end of the flight. I cannot stand women (and I am one) who pull these stunts; makes the rest of us look bad.
In truth, I'd be informing the airline you frequent and complain about the attendant who was cross with that whole karma jazz. Very unprofessional.

In what world do we have to accommodate those who out themselves in these situations.
Absolutely not, I would of told that flight attendant I had alr day done my good deed for the year and I am not obligated to extend that generosity everyday of my life

She knew she was 7 months pregnant when she purchased her coach seat. Now maybe... if she had offered a cash difference payment for the business seat, that would have been different. Stand your ground when the complainer knows before hand what they are in for!!!

That's what women do. They play victim when they don't get what they want and go out of their way to flip the script on men. Sick of it!

She was in wrong

NTA. OK, she is 7 months pregnant. What about all the other pregnant ladies not in business or first class? You mean to tell me you had the ONLY seat in business? I get it you were upgraded but she wasn't that is not on you. Her waiting, not on you. Her becoming overwhelmed because why? She wasn't given the seat? That's on her. Grow a pair. Walk it off. Yes, I was pregnant 3x. Grow a pair. Walk it off or if your pregnancy is that bad, buy business to begin with. Someone else could have given her their seat if they felt so bad for her but they didn't because she was playing the poor me card. NTA.

My guess is she pulled the pregnancy scam because she's gotten away with it before. Then she made a show of it. Speaking as a woman, pregnant women don't need upgraded seats, a regular seat will do just as well.

Nta. You can't control that she got overwhelmed and fainted. You recieved an upgrade. She did not. Anybody else could have given up there seat so why do the fa and other passengers get made at you. Why didnt they offer their seats? No they wanted to make you the bad guy because they felt guilty for not giving theirs up. That was your seat and you can chose whether to give up or not. Nobody should feel forced to give up a seat just because somebody asks or tells you too. She could've gone to the ticket counter when she got there and asked to change seats. She didnt do that because it would have cost her money that she didnt want to pay. I would have done the same thing and not given up my seat and the fa and others I would say why didn't you find her another seat or why didnt you give up your seat. The fa should have shown her kindness but they blamed you. I wouldn't be surprised from her attitude that she didnt fake the fainting so she could get moved. Its been done before.

I agree we should show compassion for others, but when needing a favor, we shouldn't come across as entitled. Asking is far better than demanding.

You had every right to say no. She was not offered the upgrade. Just because she was pregnant and thinks she is entitled doesn't give her the right to demand your seat. Pregnant women have flown economy with out fainting.