My MIL Didn’t Like My Soup So I Poured It on Her Head

11 months ago

In-laws are like lottery tickets — you never know whether you’ll get good or bad ones. The luck wasn’t on our reader’s side because her in-laws still remember her husband’s ex-wife. At some point, our reader was so sick of constant comparison that she decided to pour soup over her MIL’s head.

Our reader shared her story with us.

Marleinah Blair Smith

11 months ago

Your husband is an abuse enabler, and mil won't like anything about you ever, your food is just fine!!!!! Divorce him asap, this is toxic af.

Thanks for reaching out to us! We understand your frustration, and we came up with some ideas that can help you deal with the situation.

Apologize to her anyway.

It might have been a great moment for you, but it was an unpleasant one for your husband and your in-laws. If you want to have a good relationship with your husband again, consider apologizing to his mother. Perhaps that will be your moment to talk it out and explain how much it hurts you when they compare you to your husband’s ex-wife.

Stop trying.

Elaine Whiteley

5 days ago

Good for you! Some MIL feel it's their right to be hurtful and nasty. Why should you be their punching bag.

Your in-laws are grown up people, and it’s clear they don’t even want to meet you halfway. Your life and your decisions shouldn’t revolve around their mood and wishes. If they don’t want to find a compromise, no matter what you do, stop trying. It will not lead anywhere and will only negatively affect your well-being. If your husband ignores them, maybe you should too.

Spend less time with them.

Callie Ge

10 months ago

Tell your husband that he needs to stand up for you, His WIFE, and tell his parents to knock it off. He married you, not Samantha, your husband should never have allowed it to get this far, HE should have nipped it in the bud.
Next time they come for dinner, Don’t serve MIL any food at all, when she asks where her dinner is tell her “ you don’t like my cooking so I didn’t think you’d want to eat it. Offer her chicken broth & crackers.
Apologise for losing your temper & pouring soup on her head.
DONT apologise for Why you did it.

Tell hubby that if he doest start standing up for you & Stop his parents bullying you, he can go home with them.

Tell your husband that you don’t feel comfortable around your in-laws. He probably knows why, so it won’t come as a surprise to him. If it’s a celebration, suggest that you can celebrate in another place, not at home with your in-laws.

Take him to your parents, for example. If they visit you regularly, make sure you leave and don’t cross paths with them. If they refuse to compromise, you’ll have to decide if you want to have them around or avoid them on certain occasions instead.

Accept them as they are.

People are different, and so are their opinions. You can’t control what your in-laws think about you, and you can’t force them to think differently unless they change their minds on their own. It’s not uncommon for people to have difficult relationships with their in-laws.

So if your marriage means a lot to you, consider your in-laws as a small side effect. You’re married to your husband, not to your in-laws, and ultimately, it’s about the relationship between the two of you.

Not only in-laws can cause drama in our lives, our siblings can complicate things as well. In this article, our reader refused to let her sister walk down the aisle during her wedding. What’s even worse is that her sister is terminally ill and has never been in a relationship before.