Having had children myself I am aware what its like looking after two small ones, but first it wasn't you fault you didn't plan a holiday knowing that at the time they had no babysitter. You could of been away yourself or had plans as it working from home. I think your sister could be the selfish one expecting you to become the babysitter at such short notice, and having no thought that her children was her choice, children have feeling too and you are not her babysitter. Think a face to face is something that needs to be done, maybe ask them to reverse the situation and see what they say, personally I would have asked for more.
They’re th AH here not you. You don’t plan a vacation without your kids without having care already solidified. You are not required to change your life to fit her plans. Especially at the last minute. That’s a them problem not a You problem.
I think the main problem is that it wasn't a refuse after money were involved... Why would Anne accept doing the job for money? Is she free or not? Her sister might be in the wrong of not having planned everything accordingly, but if you're in such a situation you expect your relatives to either help you or not...asking money on her situation is actually bitter. I would start with an apology even if Anne is not necessarily wrong. She could've asked for an IOU instead, much useful
Here’s some things to consider that were in the article : . Last weekend I was planning on finishing up some of my work tasks.
. On Friday, I got a call from my sister Emma who I haven't seen that often recently. She asked me if I was willing to babysit her 3 small kids over the weekend because she and her husband wanted to go on a spontaneous trip.
. I told her I was quite busy and had other plans
. I explained to her that I planned on working so if I have to watch her children I'll no longer be able to do that.
. After calling me selfish, Emma hung up on me, and later I also got a message from her husband telling me that they had to cancel their trip because of me.
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So, her sister Emma had just assumed that Anne would watch her and her husband’s 3 kids. Even though she hadn’t seen or spoken to her that often. Anne works full time, and just because she may have some down time, doesn’t mean she is obligated to babysit 3 children because her sister and husband decided to take a “spontaneous trip”. Why would anyone plan a trip without having a definite arrangement for someone to watch their kids”? That right there is irresponsible. Emma and her husband didn’t even take into consideration that maybe Anne had plans, or just wanted some time to herself. For Emma to blame Anne for having to cancel their trip and then hang up on Anne is just selfish. If you’re just going to be that family member that comes around when you want something, don’t expect to be treated like family. Emma seems like a selfish, self centered, entitled brat.
You could of been away yourself or had plans as it working from home.
I think your sister could be the selfish one expecting you to become the babysitter at such short notice, and having no thought that her children was her choice, children have feeling too and you are not her babysitter.
Think a face to face is something that needs to be done, maybe ask them to reverse the situation and see what they say, personally I would have asked for more.
Why would Anne accept doing the job for money? Is she free or not?
Her sister might be in the wrong of not having planned everything accordingly, but if you're in such a situation you expect your relatives to either help you or not...asking money on her situation is actually bitter. I would start with an apology even if Anne is not necessarily wrong. She could've asked for an IOU instead, much useful
. Last weekend I was planning
on finishing up some of my work tasks.
. On Friday, I got a call from my sister
Emma who I haven't seen that often
recently. She asked me if I was willing
to babysit her 3 small kids over the
weekend because she and her husband
wanted to go on a spontaneous trip.
. I told
her I was quite busy and had other plans
. I explained to her
that I planned on working so if I have to
watch her children I'll no longer be able
to do that.
. After calling me selfish,
Emma hung up on me, and later I also
got a message from her husband telling
me that they had to cancel their trip
because of me.
_______________
So, her sister Emma had just assumed that Anne would watch her and her husband’s 3 kids. Even though she hadn’t seen or spoken to her that often. Anne works full time, and just because she may have some down time, doesn’t mean she is obligated to babysit 3 children because her sister and husband decided to take a “spontaneous trip”. Why would anyone plan a trip without having a definite arrangement for someone to watch their kids”? That right there is irresponsible. Emma and her husband didn’t even take into consideration that maybe Anne had plans, or just wanted some time to herself. For Emma to blame Anne for having to cancel their trip and then hang up on Anne is just selfish. If you’re just going to be that family member that comes around when you want something, don’t expect to be treated like family. Emma seems like a selfish, self centered, entitled brat.