If the shoe was on the other foot. Your child demanded that of your husband, would you have been okay with the response you gave to your stepson coming from your husband to your child.
To be honest, I felt your response was a little cold, and not very pleasant. Yes teenagers have peculiar behaviors and may sound demanding or disrespectful, but your response "we eat meat here". I found that distasteful, and disrespectful. It's hard enough as it is to get close to a child who isn't biologically yours, but that's just harsh. I think first off if he was demanding with his words or tone, I would have said something like, "I would appreciate a more calming tone when you speak to me, or if you would like something there is an appropriate way to ask". "When you speak to me in a more respectful tone, we can discuss meal options, until then, this is dinner".
