Is My Husband Cheating on Me, or Am I Just Overreacting?

Studies suggest around 30% to 40% of unmarried relationships and 18% to 20% of marriages see at least one incident of cheating. With that in mind, one woman decided to take this matter to the Internet to find out if her husband was cheating or not. Her post turned into a long thread, in which men and women shared their experiences. Let’s see what they had to say.

It’s always better to do some research.

Cheating can be a significant source of stress and conflict in a relationship. Many people try to identify signs of cheating, such as changes in behavior or habits, but these are not always reliable indicators. The only way to truly know if a partner is being unfaithful is through concrete evidence.

Even then, it is essential to keep in mind that everyone’s experiences and perspectives are different, and some people may consider certain behaviors to mean infidelity, while others may not. It’s important for both parties to have open and honest communication about their expectations and boundaries in a relationship. And this is when the Internet community comes to the rescue in terms of your doubts.

The wife was doing laundry when she saw something suspicious.

While we can never know what’s really going on in a relationship, all we can hope for is mutual trust and respect. But as much as we don’t want it, our minds can wander a bit, causing us to second-guess things. So one woman took to Reddit and shared, “I found this on his boxers while doing laundry and I asked him what it is. He said he doesn’t know...”

Then the wife added a new photo.

The woman also attached a zoomed-in picture of her husband’s boxers and what appears to be a red lipstick-like stain. This raised many questions from her side on why there would be a kiss-sized stain, so she asked for help: “I’m going crazy overthinking and I don’t know what to do. Is my husband cheating? Or am I overreacting? I think he is actually cheating.”

This is when a bunch of people tried to solve the mystery.

• This is a deliberate stain. How do I know? It’s on the INSIDE of the boxers. Homegirl left you a sign. Snoop on his phone, get your ducks in a row, if you can afford it get a P.I. I’m sorry for you. Burtonish / Reddit
  

• As a dude, hear me out. There are 3 scenarios where men will wear boxers inside out.
  1. They put them on in the dark and do it by mistake. (I have done this a handful of times)
  2. They are one of those “Flip them inside out and wear them a second day” type of guys. Yes. They do exist.
  3. Some lefties wear their boxers inside out. I learned this while living with dudes in the military. Probably not the case. But knowledge is power. My suggestion is to be extra vigilant. ReconPanda** / Reddit

• Some woman put that lipstick stain there to send you a message about your husband. It’s time to play it cool. Lurker_the_Pip / Reddit

• It def LOOKS like a lipstick stain, but could also just be a stain that resembles it from sitting on something, etc. I know this sub will tell you to immediately file for divorce, but I wouldn’t just jump to that conclusion immediately without supporting evidence. Like others have said, though, I would be surprised this made it home if he was cheating. Hatemael / Reddit
  

• Try replicating it — use your lipstick, make a kiss on a pair of underwear and then put it through the wash. Also, try making a stain with some Cheetos and see what it looks more like. bizandbabs / Reddit
  

What do you think it is? Is her husband really cheating on her, or is there another possible scenario? Write your thoughts down in the comments.