My Family Demands I Give Up My First Home — Because My Sister Is Pregnant

Oh heck no. Sister chose to have sex, got pregnant, boyfriend left her. Sad but has nothing to do with you. Buy your house and enjoy your hard work. Let your parents provide housing etc for your sister if they so choose. Not your circus, not your monkey.

Young you worked for that house. Do not give up what you worked for. Tell your family to give up there house for her then.

She mad bad choices, now she gets to grow up!!

Run!! NEVER LOOK BACK!!!!!!!!

Enjoy your hard work and your sanctuary. Go no contact

Buy your house! Go no contact! Enjoy your new house and drama free life

Your parents can give her their house since they are so concerned. Your blood tears and sweat and hunger money is non of their business to even acknowledge. It doesn't exist to them or two your sister feelings aside. On another note don't ever discuss your savings with people that didn't acknowledge your existence unless it was profitable. Talk to people that care and can give loving sound advice. They may be working on their corrupt manipulative ways the rest of their life , however they may never change and it's not your problem to be concerned with. You're the child, they continue to fail you even now.

Tell the whole family since they're so concerned about her they can help her and the baby! They can pay for everything! Why aren't they going after the sp*rm donor? It's not your place to support your sister! You didn't knock her up nor did you give birth to your SISTER! Your parents should take care of her and the baby! Buy your house and walk away with your head held high!

Bright Side is way out of line. OP is entitled to do whatever she wants with her own money, whether buying her first home or splurging on a trip to Europe. She owes no explanation to anyone.
Her family is completely out of line. Unless OP is a total masochist, she should block them and go no contact. If she wants, she can always send her sister a baby congratulations card but that is about it.

You are entitled to the life and things that you have worked. You are not responsible in any way for your sisters bad decisions. If your family feels that she needs help, it is up to them to step up and help her, not rely on you to sacrifice and do it. I see a lot of people recommending you go NC and while I generally do not support that as an option, I think in this case it may be necessary for your own piece of mind. Good luck, and hold tight to what is yours. That does not make you selfish.

Type up a list of everything you have done, every penny you have paid and send it to all your relatives, and highlight that you have worked ha d to save for your dream, not hers. It it not your responsibility to take care of an irresponsible person

STOP SHARING YOUR FINANCES WITH FAMILY!!! Did ya hear me???? People are so stupid. It's NONE of their business what you have in the bank. Had you not opened your big mouth and told everyone what you have then they couldnt come and DEMAND (cause they always demand) your money!!! Duh!

Tell your family that if they are so concerned with your sisters we'll being then they should pull all their money together because like they said, she is family. Then explain to them that they never lifted a finger to help you. Put the blame back where it belongs.

1. Why does your family know you have money saved?
2. Why are you being a doormat?
3.Tell the family what they dont know.
4. Reveal what she left out
5. Go no contact and stop announcing your finances.

Asking, let alone demanding, you to sacrifice your dreams for your sister is wrong. Who the golden child is/was is not relevant to that wrongness. What you've done for your sister in the past is not terribly relevant either. If your family feels that you, rather than your parents, should bail out your sister you should distance yourself from their toxicity.

Lis everything you've ever done, including how much money she still owes you, to every single family member.

And then buy your home and go NC with your crappy family. Sorry but, it's the best thing for you. Find a good therapist.

To be honest I think you should go NC with your family. The fact that they have been treating you like garbage for years while your sister was given the "royal treatment" is beyond ridiculous. You did everything right for yourself and your family and what did they give you in return??? Nothing!!!!! Your sister doesn't deserve to be given your new house. Neither does your family. Go buy your new home and live your own life in peace

I agree with some other comments. Set the record straight on all you've done, tell them they can give her their money for a house, and finally go NC with all of them. Enjoy your house!

She would end up losing the house. I say no way.

Fill the family in on everything you've done for her over the years. Tell them she's a big girl. She got herself in this mess she can figure things for herself. Then tell them that if they're so concerned then THEY should give her their hard earned money.

If you're parents and family are that worried about her they should all chip in and help her out even if they have to give up personal items to sell I'm sure if they all give a little they can help her out and she shouldn't of gotten pregnant before she got a good husband

Ignore the noise. You know the truth and you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. It's your money to do with as you please. Go NC if necessary. With family like that, who needs enemies?

Look. Im going to give you some very friendly advice. Go in private and buy your house. That being said. Please. Do not give out your address and go no contact with your family members. Why. Here's a good reason. My own parents god daughter was the golden child couldn't do a thing wrong. Accept that she is an addict. Her brother that was the family screw up now owns a 4 bedroom ranch house in other state and has two kids that are smarter then a whip. As I told the kids mother after she wanted him to move back to help with his sister. I looked at their mother and flatly told her. D is not her brother's monkey or concern. But she does need to get herself together. The same can be said about you. Your sis is not your monkey.

Good for you. Tell your sister to get a JOB and save money like you did. Go after the dead beat piece of crap for childsupport then she to can have money. If mom thinks she needs help tell mom to get a JOB to help your sister. You worked hard for your money you keep your money and spend it on what you want

Remind the family that your sister was stupid enough to get knocked up by a loser and her parents can help her. Go no contact with those life sucking leaches.

Oh yeah, considering your sister badmouthing you at internet, badmouthing her too. Say she have baby WITHOUT A HUSBAND. AN EYE 👁️ FOR AN EYE 👁️, A TOOTH 🦷 FOR A TOOTH 🦷 Let see how fast she will goes bald or not. On top of it, tip them $1 as "support" if they mean to you, you can do MEAN-er to them

The word FAMILY is not an excuse to take advantage of, belittle or EMOTIONALLY or SOCIALLY ABUSE ANYONE! IF you are smart cut them off NOW. You didn't get your sister PREGNANT. Your "parents" (they should look up the definition of the word) calling you selfish and saying that you are abandoning her are too ashamed of her but are trying to make it your problem. You can let them OR you can finish what you started and sacrificed and saved for and buy your own home. If you are SMART, DO NOT GIVE ANYBODY KEYS to your house. Not

Buy the home WITHOUT telling any of your family, nor your friend. Don't tell your new address either. They just want to rob you.