Hey Bright Side,
My sister has always been the golden child, the family princess. Growing up, she never had to lift a finger; our parents always excused her, while I was left to fend for myself as a teenager. I’ve been working since I was 15, skipping vacations, cutting corners, and saving every penny so I could one day buy my own home.
Now, after years of sacrifice, I was finally close to making it happen. But just last week, my parents called me and pushed me to give all that money to my sister instead. Her boyfriend left her while she was pregnant, and they said she “needs it more than me.” I do feel for her, but this is my dream, my savings, and my hard work.
When I refused, my parents turned on me. They called me selfish, accused me of abandoning her, and said I was breaking the family apart. The very next day, I found out my sister had told the whole family I had flat-out refused to help, conveniently leaving out everything I had already done for her over the years. Now, most of the family sees me as cold-hearted, when all I wanted was the home I’ve been working toward my whole life.
— Sarah
Oh yeah, considering your sister badmouthing you at internet, badmouthing her too. Say she have baby WITHOUT A HUSBAND. AN EYE 👁️ FOR AN EYE 👁️, A TOOTH 🦷 FOR A TOOTH 🦷 Let see how fast she will goes bald or not. On top of it, tip them $1 as "support" if they mean to you, you can do MEAN-er to them
The word FAMILY is not an excuse to take advantage of, belittle or EMOTIONALLY or SOCIALLY ABUSE ANYONE! IF you are smart cut them off NOW. You didn't get your sister PREGNANT. Your "parents" (they should look up the definition of the word) calling you selfish and saying that you are abandoning her are too ashamed of her but are trying to make it your problem. You can let them OR you can finish what you started and sacrificed and saved for and buy your own home. If you are SMART, DO NOT GIVE ANYBODY KEYS to your house. Not
Not even a friend. You have people that share your bloodline, but are definitely NOT FAMILY. Go live your best life.
Buy the home WITHOUT telling any of your family, nor your friend. Don't tell your new address either. They just want to rob you.
Sarah, thank you for trusting us with your story. First of all, please know that your years of hard work and sacrifice deserve respect, not guilt trips. Wanting to buy your own home is not selfish; it’s the natural result of all the effort you’ve put in since you were a teenager. You are not responsible for fixing the consequences of your sister’s choices, even if her situation is difficult.
That being said, family pressure can weigh heavily, especially when emotions and loyalty are involved. A clear, calm conversation with your parents and sister might help, where you remind them of all the support you’ve already given and explain that giving away your savings would put your own future at risk. What do you think?
