Why do you babysit every weekend? Your son and DIL should spend weekends with their kids!
My Family Mocked Me for Starting a New Hobby at 60, They Want Me to Babysit Instead
Many grandparents find deep joy in spending time with their grandchildren, often stepping in as caregivers on a regular basis. But as fulfilling as that role can be, it can also lead to blurred boundaries, especially when expectations around availability go unspoken or unbalanced. Whether it’s joining a fitness class, traveling, or simply enjoying uninterrupted time off, grandparents have every right to prioritize their own lives. This story reflects the importance of setting healthy boundaries with adult children when it comes to babysitting.
Hi, Bright Side, I’m Wendy.
Every weekend, I’ve been babysitting for my son and DIL. But a week ago, I joined a Zumba class, and I loved it. When I told my DIL, she laughed and said, “What’s next, TikTok dances?” It stung.
I told them I wouldn’t be able to babysit during my Saturday class. My son looked annoyed. I told him that it’s only a couple of hours, but he got quiet. Later that evening, I even offered to adjust the timing a little if it helped, but they didn’t seem interested.
I mentioned how much I’d been looking forward to doing something for myself, and that this class gave me energy and helped my knees feel better. Still, the atmosphere felt off. No one said much after that.
Then the next day, he sent me a message: “Since you’re prioritizing Zumba, we’ll make other arrangements going forward.” I was taken aback. I didn’t think it would come to this.
It felt like a punishment for setting one small boundary. I didn’t respond right away. Honestly, I’m still not sure what to say.
Thank you in advance, Wendy!
Here’s our advice to Wendy:
- Set clear expectations about your availability: Clarify when you’re able to babysit and when you’re not. Grandparents should be honest about their limits and not take on more than they can realistically handle.
- Communicate boundaries respectfully and proactively: Explain your priorities calmly. Therapists recommend using “I‑statements” to outline your needs without blaming, which promotes mutual respect and clarity.
- Respect adult children’s autonomy, while maintaining your own boundaries: Psychology‑based advice emphasizes honoring adult children’s right to organize their lives, even if their choices conflict with yours. Boundaries help them learn self‑reliance and preserve your well‑being.
- If pressed, stand firm in your decision: You have the right to decline without guilt. It’s healthy and fair to protect your time and autonomy without excessive justification.
- Keep lines of communication open for renegotiation: Maintain an open dialogue about how things feel. Periodic check‑ins help avoid misunderstandings and preserve family trust. Consistent boundaries and open communication reinforce stronger long‑term relationships.
Grandmothers are often taken for granted when it comes to taking care of their grandkids. However, they need their personal space, too. They are so inspiring and tough sometimes that kids don’t realize how precious they are.
Comments
Why aren't these people spending time with their children on the weekends? Jesus Christ people, don't have kids if you don't have time for them. Grandmothers aren't built-in free babysitters. She has a right to her own life.
This generation of parents doesn't seem to understand parenthood means sacrifice. You have children, your priorities have to change.
Spoiled entitled adults who really should have used birth control got a dog.
Why did they have child(ren) if they aren't going to spend any time with them? You raised your child(ren) it's your turn to do things for yourself for once and ti.e for those two nitwits to understand that. Maybe after they pay through the nose for childcare, this will dawn on them and you can set healthy boundaries.
The question is when the time comes will they be there for you?

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